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When Was the Last Time You Cried?

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12:24 / 14.06.02

This morning. In the car. A song set me off--this morning it was Kirsty MacColl's "Tread Lightly," but another morning it might be something else.

This happens two or three times a week.
This is the real reason I wear dark glasses when I drive.

I cry easily at movies and such, cry with uplift and cry with sadness, and it seems to me to be either a good release, or a total sublimation mechanism: in a crisis or grief, I tend to be dry-eyed and tightly-focussed—more angry than sad—and save my tears for a time and place when it's safe to break down, and shunt the trigger over to something trivial.

How about you?

12:31 / 14.06.02

I was welling up at my wedding, through the sheer emotion of the day. And I did have a little breakdown during my speech when I made mention of my nan who died a few weeks ago.

Prior to that... can't really remember off-hand.

12:40 / 14.06.02

When I was a juvenile. Really. Which I believe is related to the fact that when I cried as a child, I was threatened with "something to really cry about" and fed dire warnings that crying was "effeminate". Even though I didn't know what "effeminate" was, what with being only three and all, I got the drift that it was a Bad Thing to be. But I do feel like crying sometimes, an odd sensation during which nothing happens but I become convinced that my eyeballs will pop out.

STOATIE LIEKS CHOCOLATE MILK

13:59 / 14.06.02

I cry all the fucking time. Anything can trigger it- the loyalty of my dog, seeing someone (usually old people) in the supermarket buying stuff you know they can't afford, but that is their treat for the weekend or whatever (and yes, my judgment's probably wrong most of the time, but I always get to thinking about other people's lives)...
Movies. I always cry in movies. At the cheesiest bits.
Fuck, even the new "New X-Men" made me cry. On the fucking BUS. And that was a couple of hours ago. Followed by which I listened to an old album I loved years ago and had just, on a spur of nostalgia, bought on CD cos my record deck doesn't work, and therefore I haven't heard it for about ten years... not even a particularly emotional album (Cop Shoot Cop's "White Noise", if you must know) but it brought back a lot of memories... even though I've never forgotten the lyrics to ANY of the tracks on it...

Oh, and "Ed Wood"... the day I see that movie and don't cry, that's the day you know the Body Snatchers have got me...

I'm not sure if too much booze has thinned my emotional skin, or if I'm just a wuss.

(Funnily- and spookily- enough- I was thinking this morning of starting a thread on pretty much this subject...)

nedrichards is confused

14:09 / 14.06.02

I cry loads as well, although it's been less in the past few months. I think that's probably a bad thing. Crying is just a physical expression of an emotion it's to sadness as laughter is to happiness and we shouldn't be afraid to show it.

But we are.

As for the last time I cried? On september 12th when I found out that a friend who was going to a meeting at the WTC a couple of days after hadn't flow over early at all. It was release.

14:10 / 14.06.02

er, last night. earlier that day. a whole lot the night before. significant amounts of stress send me into depression or anxiety quite nicely, and once Im there I cry over fucking anything - good, bad, even fairly neutral. I dont mind normal crying - its a bit like a cleansing, I always feel at least a bit better. but that helpless miserable crying when theres something not quite right in your brain is simply useless and exhausting

Mr Wolfe

14:10 / 14.06.02

I hardly ever cry anymore, and funnily enough I was watching coma this morning (cak Michael Douglas film) and it ended, and the next film on the tape was Picnic at hanging rock - which starts off with this amazingly moving panpipe music, and that together with my memories of this film, how haunting and sad it is, almost brought a tear to my eye. (a girls school go on a valentines day picnic to hanging rock, and three of them simply disappear, never to be seen again - it's kind of a melancholy tragedy - based on a true story, and directed by Peter Weir, with lots of 'white' virginal imagery for the girls and their innocence and age, and a great phycologically harrowing soundtrack). It's set in Australia.

Murray Hamhandler

02:14 / 16.06.02

Vanilla Sky almost made me lose it. Not sure if I remember why. Ma Vie En Rose...Christ. I bawled like a baby for about an hour after seeing that one.

The Beach Boys' Pet Sounds and Neutral Milk Hotel's In The Aeroplane Over The Sea do it to me almost every time.

The last time I saw my on again/off again long-distance girlfriend. I wept a lot, but they were happy tears.

02:55 / 16.06.02

I don't remember when, exactly, but it was a few months ago while reading the news.

04:43 / 16.06.02

The last time, sitting down and talking with my father, openly and honestly, about my future.

Strange Machine Vs The Virus with Shoes

05:53 / 16.06.02

Can't remember the last time I weapt, but:

I can remember a day I nearly cried, however it was quite a long time ago. I'd just started a new job working in the Feltam area (which is enough to make anyone weep). I was in the works van when "Living thing" by ELO came on the radio. The diver, (who looks a bit like a cross between Roger Moore and an action man or thunderbirds figure)starts tapping the stearing wheel and singing along. Why me I asked myself? Now, every time I hear that Ridiculous fucking song, I think of the day I nearly cried.

14:26 / 16.06.02

Wish I could cry. It would seem to be a natural way to discharge turbulent emotion but I can usually only get a good greeting fit going when my emotions are manipulated by cheap sentiment in films. Not, sadly, by turbulence in real life.

Always cry at weddings (and, obviously, funerals). Presumably because the ceremony stokes it up. Last weep was at Ganesh's mother's last wedding earlier in the year. Just a brief trickle of moisture, none of your "wracked by sobbing" stuff. For that I need Cabaret or Casablanca.

Our Lady of The Two Towers

15:01 / 16.06.02

Moisture trickles from my eyes often, mainly due to hayfever or sensitive eyes, but crying due to emotion- I can't remember. I haven't cried for years, certainly not at my grandfathers funeral which was around 7 years ago. I honestly can't remember.

15:01 / 16.06.02

Recently I've been welling up, though sometimes with excitement and sometimes at sad bits, in the Harry Potter books I'm reading. They're very good.

Last time I had a good, out and out heart-wrenching cry was probably a week or so ago while worrying about my store and it's seemingly imminent demise.

Zoom.

16:31 / 16.06.02

Lots.

Last time was watching "Moulin Rouge" on DVD on my own.

17:17 / 16.06.02

Watched The Iron Giant a couple of weeks back, and welled up when the giant saves the town by crashing into the nuke. "Superman..."

Strange Machine Vs The Virus with Shoes

18:17 / 16.06.02

Well if I want to cry i usually watch Godfather II, the end scenes where Fredo is killed, then the shot moves to Micheal, siting outside, heart turning to stone.
I also cry at the thought that they made Godfather III after this and try to redeem Micheal.

Murray Hamhandler

19:00 / 16.06.02

I was rereading The Death Of Speedy today at work and I choked up a bit on the page where Speedy's ghost says its last goodbyes.

19:24 / 16.06.02

Last cried when watching Casablanca Thursday evening. No, not THAT bit, the scene earlier in the bar when they play the French national anthem and drown out the Germans. Justified as tears of joy!
Also I can't watch the end of Rocky Horror show when Frank-n-furter gets shot with out a tear welling up.

Oh, and every time I chop chillis and happen to have hayfever at the same time (which, for me is nearly every day of the year)

Less searchable M0rd4nt

20:41 / 16.06.02

When I'm stressed or drunk, films set me off. Not even really good films, sometimes. It's one thing to cry at the end of Carlito's Way, but it's another to find yourself snivelling helplessly over The Green Mile.

22:24 / 16.06.02

I don't cry that often. I get damp watching movies, more often at home than at the cinema though; at home, I cry because I'm alone and generally easily affected by stuff. But as I said, not so much at the movies.

Most of the time, I really wish I could cry. I get so close, but fail. Last time like that was Saturday night. Wishing I was over someone, wishing I wasn't going through a late adoscelence, wishing I was better, wishing I was someone else. But they still didn't come.

I think they might come this week, though; friends leaving. Eras ending. Wanting to be better.

The Return Of Rothkoid

22:46 / 16.06.02

Last week. Because of it all. And again, probably, on the 6th. And again, definitely, on the 9th.

I wish it were all different, and that I were too. But it's not, and I'm not. And stamping my foot all I want won't change a fucking thing.

Mr Wolfe

23:25 / 16.06.02

Carlitos way = undervalued masterpiece.

02:15 / 17.06.02

Two weeks ago, just after counselling. I felt really raw and vulnerable. Also felt about ten years old. A scared kid walking in the rain...

03:43 / 17.06.02

Last week. A frined died of cancer and another tried to commit suicide. Life is odd at the moment.

The Natural Way

08:48 / 17.06.02

That sounds horrible, Kegger. I'm sorry about that.

Saturday: my sis left for Oz. She's my half sister (but what the fuck does that mean - we all look the same, and I'm supposed to be exactly like her personality-wise, but anyway...) and she's been living w/ me for the last 5 months. We had our first proper sibling-row the other night, and all I could think about at the airport as I was hugging her goodbye was: 'I'm going to miss you so much, but this is fucking amazing!' And so I got all confused and burst into tears, which felt really nice, actually. Martha's a good old girl.

So now, when I get home from work, there'll be no pissed up, stumbling 19 yr olds there to keep me company w/ their huffy alcohol breath and lusty boy mates.

Damn.

09:34 / 17.06.02

The movie "With Honors" I watched it in my mid teens on late night TV, and then it was on again a couple of months ago and the same thing happened.

Very cheesy but it still gets me.

The Return Of Rothkoid

02:16 / 14.07.02

On and off ever since I arrived back in Australia. It's draining. The latest time was about five minutes ago; I was looking at pictures in my wallet.

And now, again. I hate it, and I can't stop.

Solitaire Rose as Tom Servo

05:42 / 14.07.02

I cried during the ending 10 minutes of Lilo and Stitch...but then I cry at most movies. I don't know why that is, to be honest, but movies and TV shows EVEN WHEN I KNOW I AM BEING MANIPULATED will make me cry.

Last time I cried not connected to a movie was when we had to remove a kid here at the group home and send him to a hospital for good. Despite everyone involved in his case saying it was the right idea, I still think I could have done more to help him.

STOATIE LIEKS CHOCOLATE MILK

09:45 / 14.07.02

Sat in the pub the other day reading the end of "Kavalier & Clay". People were staring at me. It was embarrassing.

Oh, and puzimandias- "Oh, and every time I chop chillis..." you so don't want to hear about the time I chopped some ultra-hot chillis and forgot to wash my hands BEFORE I went for a piss...

The Return Of Rothkoid

14:47 / 14.07.02

Damn you, Muriel's Wedding. Reminds me of people I (used to) know. Bah. Mope.

14:59 / 14.07.02

Awww, sorry 'Koid. Wish I could think of something more constructive to say than 'life's a shit', but I can't at the moment.

Sorry to Stoatie too - yikes!

16:05 / 14.07.02

I have absolutely no idea of the last time I cried... it would probably have been football related...I remember crying when Costa Rica beat Scotland in the World Cup...and I think I had I bit of a sob when I was feeling lonely a few months back...

03:37 / 23.07.02

Today. As if you had to ask why.

04:51 / 23.07.02

Let me guess. Is it because you're a pathetic little weasel who can't make it in the real world, so becomes totally emotionally invested in a trivial, pretentious, fake "community"?

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