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Lurid Archive

20:11 / 16.05.02

Sonmetimes you get that feeling about people. Wish fulfillment, maybe, but not entirely without validity. I get a "thing" about certain women. I know. hehehe

I've just watched an episode of Buffy where Willow gothed out and became scarrrreeeyyyy. I've been waiting so long for this. Ever since the vampire Willow. Perhaps I'm just sensing the subbiness of Joss Whedon? I don't know. I don't care.

But just in case you think this is all fantasy land, it has also happened to me IRL. Is it real? Whatever.

Mourne Kransky

20:26 / 16.05.02

Yay, Willow: domme fatale!

Perhaps you have the gift, Lurid. I wouldn't expect to connect with that vibe really and my gaydar is utter shite. I have strong intuitions about men I meet and then I hear about the wife and kids, or they start talking about football. Maybe I have MSM-dar but am too timid to test it out.

Ierne

20:41 / 16.05.02

Och Lurid, you posted this just as I'm leaving work! Boo!

I'll peel away behind the coyness to guess that in dealing with people you don't know, you have a sense as to whether or not they are dominant, and/or have an interest in expressing this in a BSDM way.

I can tell as well. My slinky senses may be slightly dull due to not being in the scene for a while, but generally it shows in how a person carries hirself.

More tomorrow.

Less searchable M0rd4nt

21:52 / 16.05.02

Despite a tendency to see the world thru perve-tinted spectacles, I think you might be right about Mr. Wheedon.

Lurid Archive

22:50 / 16.05.02

I'll just bump this thread a bit, shall I? Just to make sure that Ierne says more. I am intrigued, dear. But coyness? Moi? Harumph.

Yeah, I've had a few conversations on this subject IRL. Mostly its about reading signals - I don't really hide my fetishes, though I do find it surprising that it sometimes shows through the whole mathsy/sciency persona that I have.

Its strange that I often have very headshoppy conversations with people and at some kind of natural end I think, "wow, this person is a perv. cool." Even though the conversation isn't about BDSM at all. I like to think I'm right, but I think often I just feel the other person out. Its simple really.

To be honest, I tend to want to know about people's sexuality. So I've just been on the phone to someone who was talking about one of her friends. "Yeah, he's gay", I said. "How do you know?", she says. "He told me within ten minutes. I dunno. I just asked."

We're The Great Old Ones Now

12:41 / 17.05.02

Hmm. I've had strong intuitions about someone's sub/dom inclinations, and been right. I've also been wishful. Hm.

Ierne

13:13 / 17.05.02

I both read & posted a bit quick yesterday – I just wanted to make sure I was getting what you were saying, Lurid.

I've got some good friends in the lesbian BDSM community here, as well as having known more than a few pro doms in my time. So my experience in dealing with dominant people (mostly women – I've met a couple of dom blokes but only at dinner parties) has informed my slinky sense of who likes to be on top, who likes to be topped, and who has other kinks that don't involve BDSM.

Since I'm permissive but not submissive, doms tend to befriend me more than come on to me. So in hanging out with them when they are not "in role," I notice how they carry themselves and interact with their enviroment; if I meet someone who carries hirself in a very similar manner, the slinky sense goes off.

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