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Matthew Fluxington
15:30 / 14.04.02
It seems that a lot of people are feeling that Barbelith may becoming more vicious and nasty of late - does anyone have any ideas on what to do about this? Is this a collective angst, or is it more that a few high-profile people are going through individual phases of nastiness?

Is there something that can be done about this, or is it an inevitable?

Do you find yrself more easily irritated on Barbelith lately? Why?
 
 
rizla mission
16:08 / 14.04.02
It doesn't really bother me.

But then, nobody here is nasty to me, and (hopefully) I'm not nasty to anyone else.

I don't think it's a problem (unless threads are persistently being derailed by irrelevant bitching - at the moment they're not).
 
 
Ganesh
16:13 / 14.04.02
There are at least two sides to everything, and one man's 'nastiness' is another man's 'invigorating opinionated debate'. As Rizla says, vitriol is fine in its place - it's only when it derails established threads, or spawns thread after thread after thread that it gets really objectionable. IMHO.
 
 
Trijhaos
16:16 / 14.04.02
I haven't been bothered by any of it. I really don't think there's a great deal of nastiness. Its just a few high-profile posters being nasty.

What's that saying? "Familiarity breeds contempt"?
 
 
Spatula Clarke
16:44 / 14.04.02
Um, I've not noticed anything out of the usual going on recently, Flux. Apart from one thread in this forum, but I'm putting that down to an error in judgement rather than anything else.

As a wise man once told me, don't take it too seriously. It's only a game.
 
 
Steve Block
16:54 / 14.04.02
I haven't noticed anything out of the ordinary, personally. Although it's been a while since my last big stint here. I have trouble knowing who anybody is anymore, so I just assume everyone is nice.
 
 
Matthew Fluxington
17:18 / 14.04.02
In terms of relativity, I don't personally think much has changed. I don't think there's a sudden outbreak of meanness here, though I have seen some people say that they feel this way.

I think that personally, I've been a bit more bitchy lately. I've got my reasons. Maybe this is why I'm wondering about this...
 
 
Murray Hamhandler
17:23 / 14.04.02
I think that the Knowledge situation (which, for better or worse, is once again an issue, it seems) is the only thing that consistently pisses me off here. Won't go too deeply into it, as everyone knows my position. But I think that Knowledge, for some reason or another, brings out the nasty side in a lot of people here, and not always through any fault of his own. Seeing people get nasty makes me really pissy.
Arthur Sudnam, II
 
 
Matthew Fluxington
17:26 / 14.04.02
It's funny, as annoying and obnoxious as I know the Knowledge is, he doesn't grate on me nearly as much as some other folks who aren't so obviously troll-ish...
 
 
Ganesh
17:31 / 14.04.02
Sometimes, Arthur (Rathur, whatever) it seems it's all you want to talk about. Sometimes I feel it's all I'm talking about. Which is extremely boring. We have the Ignore button now; I suggest we stop discussing the issue (if it is an issue) and either selectively Ignore or, if it's that irritating, leave the place altogether.
 
 
Murray Hamhandler
17:52 / 14.04.02
Well, just don't talk or read about it if it bores you so much. Avert your eyes. I think (and I'm not the only one) that it's an important topic. Knowledge seems capable of showing what good little fascists certain supposed free-thinkers can be under certain circumstances. I'm not just going to sit back and shut up about it, so get used to it or click on the little Ignore button by my name. You have that option.
Arthur Sudnam, II
 
 
Matthew Fluxington
18:36 / 14.04.02
Okay, I finally need to get this off of my chest : WHERE anywhere on the Barbelith site does it state that we're all supposed to be a bunch of hippy-dippy "free thinkers"? Not that it's exactly a bad thing, but where are people getting this from? I imagine it's implicit in some of Grant Morrison's writings, but even still - come on. There's got to be rules and regulations, there's got to be standards. Almost all of us agree upon this...it's not fascism. It's not a big clique. It's just an attempt to keep focused and orderly...
 
 
Ganesh
20:46 / 14.04.02
So we both have the Ignore option, Arthur. Let's both shut up and stop posting Knowledge-related posts, hmm? I can do it if you can...
 
 
Mourne Kransky
20:54 / 14.04.02
yeh, well you're entitled to your opinion Arthur Sudnam but if it genuinely is that "The Knowledge" is "showing what good little fascists certain supposed free-thinkers can be under certain circumstances" then you need to get out more.

"Fascists" is a very very very strong word to use about people who, in my opinion, are very open and very tolerant and if you really have such a hard time handling the fact that some of us think he's exactly the antithesis of what the 'Lith is all about then you go cuddle up with a man who throws out the words he does with impunity in his posts, irrespective of the emotional damage he wreaks.

But there we go, I have not responded to the troll , but I have
responded to his minion, so I am away to sit in the rubber room for a while till I calm down.
 
 
Mourne Kransky
20:57 / 14.04.02
Just responded when I really shouldn't have 'cause I was too drunk on Capirinhas, so shall invoke the joyful ignore button! No moral quandaries for a whole week to come! Voltaire would have been so chuffed to have this option....
 
 
Tom Coates
22:43 / 14.04.02
If people wish to continue debating the topic at hand - ie. if Barbelith is becoming mean - then that's great. But I would appreciate it if everyone would just drop the whole Knowledge thing now. We all know each others' positions - let's now just let it go into the past and try not to let it sour everything. Ok?
 
 
Murray Hamhandler
22:47 / 14.04.02
WARNING: KNOWLEDGE RELATED POST...PLEASE TURN YOUR HEAD FOR A MOMENT

"Fascists" is a very very very strong word to use about people who, in my opinion, are very open and very tolerant and if you really have such a hard time handling the fact that some of us think he's exactly the antithesis of what the 'Lith is all about then you go cuddle up with a man who throws out the words he does with impunity in his posts, irrespective of the emotional damage he wreaks.

Oh, for the love of Pete...
I assume that you are now ignoring me, ZoCher, so what I say probably isn't going to make a lick of difference to you. I am not Knowledge's minion. I'm not his friend, I don't support everything he says, and I'm even kind of perturbed about a lot of the things he says and does. The issue here is not and never has been about Knowledge himself. I'm not on his side and I'm not on your side. I'm on the side of fair play. This openness and tolerance you speak of has rarely been exercised towards Knowledge in the entire time that he has been here.

From what I've seen (and I have asked time and again for something more substantial than expressions of distaste towards Knowledge before judging him, proving that I am open to accepting your side on the issue), Knowledge was once just a guy who occasionally posted something a little outrageous (but often had something worthwhile to say) and sometimes couldn't spell his way out of a paper bag. Not such a terrible thing, but for some reason, a lot of 'Lithers adopted a really childish method of constantly ganging up on him whenever he posted about anything and giving him unwarranted shit about his stupidity or whatever. I saw this numerous times and called people on it. For the longest time, Knowledge admirably took this all in stride. After a while of this, though, he, like just about anyone else, got tired of it and started firing back. He did, I admit, occasionally get a little inflammatory. This pissed people off. From what I saw of the progression, Knowledge never entered anything resembling troll country until people started pushing him around. But once he did, he opened himself up to all of his detractors and gave them the fuel they needed to work towards getting rid of a person they didn't think very highly of. A nice analogy for the whole situation is a dog constantly being poked w/a stick for the amusement of others and being put to sleep when he's had enough and decides to bite back.

Now. Here's the thing. Everyone's told me that there's more to it than that. Fine. Show me. I am prepared to eat all of my words. I can't read every post on the board and I'm sure that there are a lot of episodes of this saga that I have missed. So stop telling me that there's more and show me what else you've got. You want to shut me up? Show me these threatening posts that he's written. I've seen a lot of irresponsible things that he's written that made my eyes roll and that would probably be offensive to people w/thinner skins (it seems to be more of a matter of his choice of words than the underlying thing that he's actually saying that people take offense to), but nothing directly abusive. Until I see these posts, I'll keep defending his right to speak freely and his right to be treated as an equal on this board, regardless of whether I ever agree w/another word he writes or not. Again, I'm not defending Knowledge per se but rather trying to maintain some sense of fair play here. I think that too much of the bad feeling towards Knowledge is based more on people going along w/other people who have a poor opinion of him than on anything that he's actually said or done that makes him such a focus of people's ire. And I think that sucks. And I would defend any single person here who was in a similar position.

Do I support Knowledge being banned if he has compromised the integrity of the board? Yes. Do I support his being banned if he has threatened violence against anyone on the board? Yes. Do I support his being banned if his actions on the board are in any way illegal and/or something that Tom himself might be liable for? Yes. Knowledge has been accused of these things. I have asked, numerous times, to see evidence, to have links posted to the inflammatory things that he's allegedly said, before I condemn him personally. I don't think that this is such an impossible thing to ask. I have never seen this evidence. I am ignored or told to shut up every time I bring up the subject. I'm expected to concede and join the lynch mob, I guess. It ain't gonna happen. Calling me names and using the tactics that pretty much turned Knowledge into a troll on me isn't going to work either, so give it up before you even get started. His unsolicited e-mailing of other 'Lithers around the time he was last kicked pushed things a little bit, but it seemed more annoying than abusive. It appears, though, that 'annoying' is enough for some people to want to see him banned. It seems that the fact that he would even dare to post is enough for people to slag him. I think that there were a lot of useful ideas and thoughts in his 'manifesto' (and, admittedly, a lot of chaff, but nothing really malignant), but I'm irritated to see that people are continuing to be such knee-jerk pricks about it just because it's Knowledge. It's perfectly w/in people's rights to be a knee-jerk prick about it and it's perfectly w/in my right to call people on being a knee-jerk prick about it. It seems like Knowledge might be willing to let bygones be bygones and act sensibly, but no one is willing to give him a chance. It's funny that none of my correspondence w/Knowledge on or off the board has been tainted by anything the slightest bit inflammatory. He's always been sensible and thoughtful w/me and I'm not so quick to judge the actions he takes in an environment that has been openly hostile towards him much longer than he has been towards it.

And so you don't think I'm favoring Knowledge, I have PM-ed him urging him to mind his P's and Q's now that he's back. I don't think he's an innocent in this, but I think he's been given an unfair way to go for a long time, even before he became the focus of so much anger. Give him a chance and treat him like a human being and he might stop acting like such a misanthrope (which I don't think he's done since he's been back, w/the possible exception of the Ierne thread [which I called him on]). Or continue to undermine everything he says and does and gasp in surprise when he continues to bite back. The choice is yours.
Arthur Sudnam, II
 
 
Murray Hamhandler
22:48 / 14.04.02
Sorry, Tom. I was writing as you posted. I will refer to my previous post in the future.
Arthur Sudnam, II
 
 
Spatula Clarke
22:52 / 14.04.02
Agreed, Tom.

As to the original question, maybe it's just a heightened sensitivity that's present here at the moment? Stuff that would have been ignored or accepted as just a part of a specific poster's 'style' is being taken more seriously by those who believe that they're being wronged?

It's funny, in a way, that people can get so hurt by something said by someone who doesn't know them talking about the content of their posts, when what's posted is usually only a minute representation of the greater whole of our Real Life personalities (I say this fully aware of how badly I've reacted to thnigs here in the past).
 
 
Tom Coates
23:13 / 14.04.02
Arthur if your post above causes this whole frustrating situation to spiral out of hand again, then I will be personally furious beyond the ability to measure it. Everyone else. Let it go. I don't think we need to have this bloody conversation again.
 
 
rizla mission
08:29 / 15.04.02
There's got to be rules and regulations, there's got to be standards

Well, quite.
I mean, we can't go letting just any slouching ne'erdowell in, can we? What would that lead to? Bally chaos!
 
 
cusm
15:11 / 15.04.02
Nothing tears a group up as fast as the members of that group becomming aware of the group itself as an identity, and then trying to police it in any fashion.

As soon as the possibility of someone being banned becomes a possible weapon to use in social disputes, things get very ugly. Suddenly, people aren't fighting over a personal disagreement, they're fighting to protect their terroritory, and once you go there you'll use tactics you'd not normally even consider normally. The drawbacks of allowing yourself to combat on the animal instinct level. We crossed a line with Knodge. Now that banning is a possibility, rules are required to manage it, and things only get worse from here.

You're either a cooperative anarchy, or an organized government. Anything in between is only a perpetual state of civil war. I've done that before, I really don't want to do it again. I'm just starting to feel at home here, and I'd really hate to see things dissolve over what are otherwise honest attempts to try to improve the lot.

Arguments are good. Disputes are good. Differences are good. These things challenge us to grow, and benefit all, but only if we manage to not take it all personally.

Thanks,
 
 
Matthew Fluxington
15:29 / 15.04.02
Oh

come

ON!

Things here are neither that severe/dire, nor is the world nearly as black and white as the binary relationship of law and lawlessness that you're putting forth...
 
 
grant
15:52 / 15.04.02
E Randy: Um, I've not noticed anything out of the usual going on recently, Flux. Apart from one thread in this forum, but I'm putting that down to an error in judgement rather than anything else.

As a wise man once told me, don't take it too seriously. It's only a game.


Flux=: It's funny, as annoying and obnoxious as I know the Knowledge is, he doesn't grate on me nearly as much as some other folks who aren't so obviously troll-ish...

Word to both of these.
Full on.
 
 
Regrettable Juvenilia
17:19 / 15.04.02
Come on people, the explanation's obvious: I haven't been able to post as much lately, and the site's gone to hell in a handbasket without that input...
 
 
Mystery Gypt
17:02 / 16.04.02
my sense is that the "meaness" or frustration factor is confined 99% of the time to the Policy and Conversation forums. It is in these places only that the topic is barbelith itself, where people wonder aloud what this place is for and take each other to task for not behaving therefore as they "should." these forums are social and directionless; of course it is here that we turn on each other.

in all the other forums, barbelith excels at "accomplishing" quite a lot, remarkably. when you spend most of your barbetime reading information and debating issues anywhere else, you tend to never even notice that supposed social climate of the board as a whole. it is as if these top two forums, though they seem to get under people's skin, are a social venting zone that keep the rest of the board much more lucid.

if there is ever a time then that the board seems to be socially one way or another, "mean" or "vitriolic" or anything else, i'm betting dollars to donuts that this is only the case in a confineable section, one which can be avoided and which provides its own unique service.
 
 
Tom Coates
21:59 / 16.04.02
I think that's a stunningly useful thing to say, actually. I really do. The whole point of creating The Conversation was to encourage people to have 'proper' conversations everywhere else. It was designed to be the place that people got to know each other, yelled at each other, had sex and drank too much. But more importantly it was designed so that all the people who had got to know each other, yelled at each other, had sex with each other and drank too much didn't feel they had to do that over the rest of the board - and more importantly were quite looking forward to a break...

I suspect the board will do very well as we figure out the 'rules' more closely. Unlike in real life, we can use a few very simple rules, a few functioning mechanisms and direct democratic action to make decisions and to run the board. I think this gives us the opportunity to experiment with entirely different ways of producing a self-running community, rather than a nominal anarchy, physically maintained by me, and with occasional vast crises that require divine intervention from the code godhead... I'd rather have my powers distributed between fifty or sixty moderators (as we now do) rather than keep control of them myself...
 
  
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