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Shipping OUT of Boston?

 
 
Blue Eyes Not Innocent
12:29 / 17.07.08
So, the idea struck me last night, while I was drunk. Some may think that's crazy, giving serious consideration to an idea that I had while drunk, but I've done some of my best thinking after emptying a flask and downing a few ciders. Anyway.

Well, the idea. I'm leaving my job in 3 weeks; finally got sick of Boston Properties's crap, so as of August 4th, I don't have a job here anymore. Now, I'm aware that the job market kind of sucks all over, and I'm in the process of poking holes in the arguments I keep tossing to myself, but there's a part of me that's asking, "why NOT move to Seattle when your job's done?". I'm sure I could either sublet or find someone to take over my lease at my apartment, with all the students(my apartment's exceptionally cheap), my friend Holly(who, besides being a good friend, I've got more than a passing fancy for, and I know she feels the same way) has offered to let me crash at her place while I find a job and an apartment out there.

So, in summation: I'm crazy. Somebody PLEASE tell me that it's a terrible idea to go moving across the country on a whim and a prayer because I know somebody out there and I feel like a change.
 
 
Ron Stoppable
13:08 / 17.07.08
dude, nothing about that sounds too nuts, with possible exception of the idea of living with the girl. If the two of you have potential, then perhaps drawing a line under Boston and moving straight in with her in Seattle - being reliant on her pad as a place to actually live - adds a little, I dunno, awkwardness? There's an eggs / basket dynamic to consider, perhaps?

I could be making too much of it - lunchtime drinking makes a man soppy. But yeh, move if you're feeling it. A change of scenery tends to the positive in my experience.
 
 
Blue Eyes Not Innocent
13:39 / 17.07.08
Well, it'd be temporary, just until I find a job and my own place, which I'd plan on doing post-haste. I don't actually do well living with romantic interests/partners in anything but the short-term, as I've discovered.
 
 
ONLY NICE THINGS
14:06 / 17.07.08
How do you know she feels the same way? Has she made it clear that she would like to have a relationship with you? Have you ever been on a date, or agreed to go on a date? Has she ever, actually, told you that she likes you that way, and if she has have there been reasons why that liking has not become a relationship, for example the presence of other partners or the discovery of this attraction only after she moved to another seaboard?
 
 
ONLY NICE THINGS
14:18 / 17.07.08
If not, I would suggest keeping that element out of your thoughts in the planning stages. On the other hand, you're young, unemployed, uncommitted - why not?
 
 
Blue Eyes Not Innocent
14:50 / 17.07.08
We've been pretty explicit about how schmoopy we are about each other, yeah; the only thing really keeping us from dating is the 2000-some miles separating us. But it's seriously less about her and more about a thing with me, and wanting a change of scenery and venue for awhile. I don't know, I'll figure it out, I'm sure; it's not a decision to make lightly.
 
 
grant
17:42 / 17.07.08
GO.
 
 
Mono
19:34 / 17.07.08
I second grant's emotion.

7 years ago, I moved to Seattle on a 3 1/2 week whim and it was one of the best moves of my life.

GO for it. You can always move somewhere else/back to Mass if it doesn't work out, so why not?
 
 
Mirror
14:25 / 22.07.08
Thirded. GO.

The best thing I ever did was cast off under almost exactly the same circumstances as yours (and I ended up marrying the girl.)
 
 
Blue Eyes Not Innocent
23:17 / 28.07.08
Thanks for the encouragement, guys; I'm still weighing all the pros and cons(pulling away from my network of friends here and plopping myself down completely outside my comfort zone, for one), but it's getting serious consideration.
 
 
grant
13:45 / 28.08.08
ARE YOUR BAGS PACKED??
 
 
Blue Eyes Not Innocent
20:49 / 28.08.08
Heh, I have to say they're not. I thought over Seattle a lot, and realized that I'd have been moving to get away from Boston and running to Holly for refuge, basically, rather than facing my own issues and problems. I'd rather walk through the fire than keep running away from it, so for right now Boston's where I'm staying.

That being said, doesn't mean I won't visit it a lot, or consider moving there in the future.
 
  
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