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Liberation vs. Exploitation, Agency vs. False Consciousness

 
  

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Regrettable Juvenilia
12:39 / 20.09.07
Being a continuation of a discussion which starts roughly here in the Misogyny Watch thread, with a post about a specific opinion piece saying women are to blame for the male gaze cuz they be gettin manicures, but quickly moves into a more general debate about... well, a number of things, and to my mind the conflation of these things is part of the problem: pornography and non-pornographuc media that includes nudity or sexualised content (see, we could just debate the difference between those two until the cows come home); social and legal attitudes towards sex and sexuality in general; the relationship between self-esteem, validation and expressions of one's sexuality including how and to whom one displays one's body; different schools of feminism; different forms of patriachy; capital, consumerism, and politicised communications...

This one can go in any number of different directions, and it will run and run. Please to read the relevant bits of the other thread, and then come here and post while I catch my breath.
 
 
Tryphena Absent
15:42 / 20.09.07
This is a response to Olulabelle:

the point is that women clearly feel the need to be included in a society where having a picture of you with your tits out printed in a magazine is the ultimate accolade

Olulabelle, I want to know why you think this is the case? Which women feel this? How do you know they think it's the ultimate accolade? Why should their choice be frowned upon because we don't like it? We don't have to put our tits online, I feel like we need to make a society where we can put our tits online if we want to, not tell other people not to. I know that's an idealistic view but I don't particularly frown on porn, home made or otherwise and the point is if a load of men put their unmentionables online no one would automatically say "but teenage boys everywhere are going to compare their cock sizes to these men" (even if they did).

I've been reading Joanna Entwistle's The Fashioned Body and some of it seems very relevant so I'm quoting her: "dress or adornment is one of the means by which bodies are made social".

I think this is a tricky thing to discuss because there's a certain amount of social horror that we feel in women 'getting their tits out for the lads' but no one gets their tits out purely for the lads, they get them out because they're their tits and they like them and they can expose them if they want to. Most women who expose themselves in public don't feel much social pressure, I don't like Decca Aitkenhead's article because I feel like she's trying to impose the problems she experiences onto other women and I think that's horrific.
 
 
Jack Fear
16:14 / 20.09.07
Whereas your statement that "no one gets their tits out purely for the lads..." is clearly not projection of (presumably) your own attitudes onto woman-in-general... how, exactly?

Because it seems like a pretty nifty bit of mind-reading, TBH.
 
 
petunia
16:51 / 20.09.07
Jack, if a woman choses to get her tits out, there is inevitably a point at which her action cannot be enforced solely by another person's desire; she choses to get them out. There is a desire and a choice involved always. In the motive 'for the lads', there is a desire to act for the lads - for their preference, for their enjoyment, for the feeling of giving them this.

The only time a woman could get her tits out purely for the lads (i.e. an action engendered solely by the desire of outer agents) would be a time when the lads got her tits out - specifically a time when she is not getting her tits out.

I would like to assume that none of our media involve photographs of women whose tits have been forcefully bared for the pleasure of the viewer. If this assumption holds, then Tryphena's comment must hold too.

This is not to say that choices may not be compromised, made out of 'false consciousness' or otherwise constrained, but as long as there is a choice, it is always one's own.
 
 
Jack Fear
17:49 / 20.09.07
Mm. I'll go with that, to an extent. But to echo and amplify something that Haus said in the original thread, the whole notion of "choice" depends on there being a pool of options from which to choose. And depending on how circumscribed that pool is, sometimes a choice is really no choice at all.

Dumb question: Why don't more men pose naked or semi-naked for magazines or, for that matter, MySpace pages? Do men not like their own bodies?
 
 
All Acting Regiment
17:53 / 20.09.07
Or are they just not brought up in a world where male flesh is used to sell things in the same way, or to the same degree, that female flesh is?
 
 
diz
19:17 / 20.09.07
Mm. I'll go with that, to an extent. But to echo and amplify something that Haus said in the original thread, the whole notion of "choice" depends on there being a pool of options from which to choose. And depending on how circumscribed that pool is, sometimes a choice is really no choice at all.

In theory, but barring physical violence, the threat of physical violence, or other forms of direct and overt coercion, the pool is seldom if ever that circumscribed.
 
 
Haloquin
20:12 / 20.09.07
In theory, but barring physical violence, the threat of physical violence, or other forms of direct and overt coercion, the pool is seldom if ever that circumscribed.

Yes... but then at what point is the line drawn between "direct and overt coercion" and non-direct coercion? Is non-direct coercion less limiting to someone's choices than direct coercion?

We are presumably influenced by what we are surrounded by, and the idea that we 'have a choice' unless threatened with violence or directly coerced (paraphrasing) is, while nice, not necessarily a good reflection of what happens in peoples' minds. While an outsider may say "you have a choice" it may not feel that way to someone in the middle of a situation. Not having been there (in the 'getting your breasts out way) I don't really know, but I know in some situations I seen others unable to see a choice I think that they have, and so they do what they think is the only option...

My thoughts aren't ordered perfectly around this, but I am concerned by the idea that if we aren't threatened/coerced we necessarily are able to see/take a different path to what we do, in all situations. And if we can't see a choice to make, can we really have that choice?
 
 
diz
20:42 / 20.09.07
Yes... but then at what point is the line drawn between "direct and overt coercion" and non-direct coercion?

Physical violence, threats of physical violence, threats of economic violence (loss of job, etc), blackmail, etc. Generally, criminally actionable sorts of behaviors.

Is non-direct coercion less limiting to someone's choices than direct coercion?

In a word, yes.

In more than a word, maybe, maybe not, but for normal social interaction to function, you have to assign responsibility to an individual for their own choices at some point, and that's really the only line you can draw without causing more problems than you solve. We have to presume that when someone acts without overt coercion, that they're acting of their own free will, for any number of reasons. Namely:

1) Who gets to decide what constitutes an authentic, legitimate motivation?
2) Who gets to define what constitutes an individual's best interest, or the best interests of society?
3) How far are outsiders permitted to go in acting against a person's expressed desire in the name of what's best for them?

Etc etc.

We are presumably influenced by what we are surrounded by, and the idea that we 'have a choice' unless threatened with violence or directly coerced (paraphrasing) is, while nice, not necessarily a good reflection of what happens in peoples' minds.

Agreed, but, ultimately, what goes on in people's minds is really, ultimately, none of our business. I'm telling you I want to show someone my body part, the other person wants to see my body part, at what point does a third person get to second-guess people's motivations?

While an outsider may say "you have a choice" it may not feel that way to someone in the middle of a situation.

Yeah, well, that's life. We can offer to encourage people to be more assertive, to articulate their boundaries, etc., to see other alternatives, but, really, every individual kind of has to learn to do that (or choose to seek out someone who can teach them to do that) on hir own. You might not see another alternative, you may have a bunch of psychological baggage that leads you to make unhealthy choices, but, ultimately, that's on you.

Not having been there (in the 'getting your breasts out way) I don't really know, but I know in some situations I seen others unable to see a choice I think that they have, and so they do what they think is the only option...

Again, that's life. Too bad, so sad.

And if we can't see a choice to make, can we really have that choice?

Whose responsibility is it that I can't see alternatives if not mine? Parents, peers, authority figures, the media, etc., but no one has a perfect upbringing, we all get bombarded by the same media bullshit, and we still muddle through somehow. Part of being an adult is owning your own psychological baggage and choosing how you're going to deal with it.
 
 
Jack Fear
20:56 / 20.09.07
Is that a libertarian I smell?
 
 
diz
21:16 / 20.09.07
I can be very critical of libertarianism, but I'm increasingly sympathetic to it as the least worst option in many cases.
 
 
Haloquin
21:33 / 20.09.07
I love the idea that we are all responsible, ultimately for our own choices, for what baggage we continue to carry... but this idea has the unfortunate side effect that we then can sit back and say;
I have no responsibility for the society that has taught you* that you must bear your breasts in order to be accepted, that you must be 'sexy' to be appreciated, that you are only worthwhile if you have knockers you are willing to flash to the world... (or whatever potentially damaging behaviour we're looking at)

I'm possibly exaggerating, but if you take the position that you are not responsible for what someone else does AND are therefore not responsible for the society that has taught them what to do... when does harmful behaviour get changed? Those of us who dislike the way it is, are actively damaged by it, and want to see it different are perfectly valid in taking offence to a "thats life, too bad, too sad" attitude.

Now, if someone is perfectly healthy and wants to 'bare her breasts for the boys', I have very little issue with that, as long as it doesn't harm things for the rest of us... as society stands I'm not sure it is harm-free. Even with a healthy attitude on the part of the 'bare-ee', there is no guarentee that there is a healthy reception/projection onto others.**

"Thats life, too bad" is not a helpful attitude, IMO, "Thats life NOW; why is it that way? Is it helpful and can we change it if it isn't?" is far more up my street.

Libertarianism, which seems to be vaguely where you're coming from, is a nice theory... in practice very few people are able to follow it.


*I, of course, am referring to a hypothetical 'you'.

** I am no expert so would have trouble backing this up with non-anecdotal evidence.
 
 
diz
22:16 / 20.09.07
I'm possibly exaggerating, but if you take the position that you are not responsible for what someone else does AND are therefore not responsible for the society that has taught them what to do... when does harmful behaviour get changed?

When it changes.

Which is to say, when the underlying socioeconomic conditions change, which is to say when a major technological paradigm shift occurs, which they do more or less of their own accord on their own schedule.

Those of us who dislike the way it is, are actively damaged by it, and want to see it different are perfectly valid in taking offence to a "thats life, too bad, too sad" attitude.

Whether or not you feel you're justified in feeling offended has little or no consequence in the greater scheme of things.

Now, if someone is perfectly healthy and wants to 'bare her breasts for the boys', I have very little issue with that, as long as it doesn't harm things for the rest of us... as society stands I'm not sure it is harm-free. Even with a healthy attitude on the part of the 'bare-ee', there is no guarentee that there is a healthy reception/projection onto others.**

The world is not perfectly safe. Never has been, never will be.

"Thats life, too bad" is not a helpful attitude, IMO, "Thats life NOW; why is it that way?

Ultimately, everything is the way it is because of the particular fusion of environmental conditions, history, technological development, etc. that exist in this place and time. For example, we have global trade networks right now because:

1) Technology makes global trade feasible -> Every region of the globe has an opportunity to opt in on some level, though historical factors such as pre-existing levels of wealth have a huge impact on the degree and nature of participation
2) Contemporary capitalism produces more surplus wealth than any other known economic system -> The advantages to participating in the system in terms of getting a chunk of the absurd amounts of material wealth being produced are such that any individual or group of individuals who choose to opt out are going to get bulldozed by those who do not choose to opt out
3) 1 + 2 means that it is inevitable that everyone and everything gets put into the global trading system at some level regardless of what anyone wants

You can protest, you can vote, you can boycott, you can do whatever you damn well please, but you cannot change the fundamental realities involved. You can try to negotiate a better deal for yourself, or for someone else you think is getting screwed, but you can't change the fundamentals. Stirrup + heavy armor + specifics of European geography = feudalism, i.e. You're a serf, shut up and like it until the next game-changing technological and economic developments come into play.

Is it helpful

That's relative, isn't it? Helpful to whom, and for what purpose?

and can we change it if it isn't?"

Not really. I think we can put some work into building alternatives within the same basic overall framework, and tweaking here and there, but, no, we can't make conscious, substantive changes to our overall social order any more than medieval peasants could change theirs. Like it or not, we are products of our time and place, and while we have some latitude in how we choose to play the game, we can't change the basic structure, which changes according to its own logic.

One thing that both the Enlightenment (the myth of the rational man shaping his society through the application of reason) and Romanticism (the myth of the heroic individual) share is a gross exaggeration of the importance of the individual and hir ability to affect society. I know it's very ego-gratifying to believe that you can make a difference, that you're in control of your own destiny, that a committed band of individuals can change the world, but it's just not true.
 
 
Disco is My Class War
06:45 / 21.09.07
So it's interesting that this began back in the other thread as a question of sexual and gendered 'agency', or 'false consciousness', and that Petey phrased his initial questions in terms of sex and gender, but the musings on choice have become generalised to the point of near-meaninglessness, or 'Dude, we're all people.' I don't think there's much point in discussing this unless it focuses specifically on sexual and gendered stuff -- and maybe there's a question about how capitalism works in terms of its effects on the body, and desire, to be sure.

My feelings are that it's absolutely useless to phrase this question in terms of either having choices or not having choices. The whole assumption that a person -- a woman who feels that she is gaining something by sexualising herself, or a guy who does the same thing, in different heteronormatively gendered ways -- behaves according to the most rational choice is, I fear, ridiculous. On the other hand, I totally don't buy into 'flase consciousness' ideas, either. No 'choice' can ever be separated from its context, its setting, what a person is feeling in the moment, the randomness of the weather... (As well as the political or economic or social conditions that might influence someone's behaviour, as well.)

That rant made no sense, but never mind.
 
 
Tryphena Absent
08:49 / 21.09.07
The whole assumption that a person -- a woman who feels that she is gaining something by sexualising herself, or a guy who does the same thing, in different heteronormatively gendered ways -- behaves according to the most rational choice is, I fear, ridiculous.

This bothers me and I'm having trouble working out why. I think it's the word heteronormative because I think we're basically talking about codes of sexualisation rather than readers wives photos and every group of people, no matter who or what they find attractive has those codes. It makes me uncomfortable to respond to phrases like heteronormatively gendered when actually this is a discussion that's already intensely difficult. People are talking about choices because how the hell can you judge porn and the drive to be a sexual human being? It's insane to say it shouldn't exist when it always will, I don't feel right criticising women for exhibiting themselves when they want to or criticising straight sexual codes when I'm not prepared to criticise everyone elses.

Sex isn't rational, sexualisation isn't rational but when I sexualise myself (which obviously happens every time I flirt and often when I put on clothes that I like) I'm still making a choice. I choose to wear a short skirt or a low cut top because that's what I want to wear and I don't expect to be told to cover up or that I'm engaging in a heteronormative discourse or that I'm overtly sexualising myself. I'm still acting in line with dominant codes of dress in society. In the 1950's I wouldn't be, I can wear what I'm wearing at work because Mary Quant invented the mini skirt.

I don't have a problem with women exposing themselves (even if there is something Freudian about men looking at photos of isolated body parts), sexualisation is a choice and one that actually women make every day of the week and that's why I disagree with you. There's an argument that every time a woman sexualises herself she makes it easier for that action to be less sexualised in the future, there's an argument that says women aren't deliberately sexualising themselves, there's an argument that says everyone sexualises oneself everyday.

Basically I think we should give women a fucking break and stop criticising them all the time because they have female bodies and they're doing what they want with them.
 
 
Closed for Business Time
09:13 / 21.09.07
I find this very interesting - I don't feel right criticising women for exhibiting themselves when they want to or criticising straight sexual codes when I'm not prepared to criticise everyone elses.

But surely one can criticise heteronormativity when the normative force of straightness acts as a motivation for straight people to try to devalue or dehumanise non-straight sexual practices and non-straights in general? Not saying that that is always the case, just that in those cases where that can be argued to be the situation, there are grounds for critique.
 
 
Disco is My Class War
09:18 / 21.09.07
Argh, that's pretty much what I meant. I just wanted to question the logic that says people always behave according to their own rationality, therefore they are always conscious of the codes and motivations for particular kinds of sexualisation or attention and could decide to 'behave better' if you explained it to them. I guess I used the word heteronormative because that was being discussed in the other thread. ( It's perfectly possible to objectivity/sexualise oneself in queer spaces, and the same problematics can happen, and it can also be really productive/sexy.)

Anyhow, obviously it really did make no sense, I'm a little drunk.
 
 
Disco is My Class War
09:19 / 21.09.07
X-posted with Tryphena, there.
 
 
Tryphena Absent
10:16 / 21.09.07
But surely one can criticise heteronormativity when the normative force of straightness acts as a motivation for straight people to try to devalue or dehumanise non-straight sexual practices and non-straights in general?

Sure, I don't think that's what happens when women expose their breasts. Magazines like FHM/Nuts/Zoo and some women's magazines can be called heteronormative. Calling women's sexualisation of themselves (even if the images are viewed by men) heteronormative is, I think, a bit of a stretch (other people will disagree but there's always a danger when we talk about culture that we're ignoring people's individuality for the sake of theory and this isn't a book).
 
 
Tryphena Absent
10:18 / 21.09.07
... this thread is totally going to turn into a discussion about 2nd vs 3rd wave feminism if we don't consciously avoid it.
 
 
Lurid Archive
11:34 / 21.09.07
Ultimately, everything is the way it is because of the particular fusion of environmental conditions, history, technological development, etc. that exist in this place and time. For example, we have global trade networks right now because:.....

But this is far too crude an argument to support your strongly apathetic conclusion. It is true that technology, history and conditions form a large explanation of where we are - a capitalist world, say - but the variations within that system, while small from a distant historical perspective, are extremely significant to the people they effect. For instance, the EU and the US are both wealthy and capitalist yet are quite different in the treatment of their citizens with respect to health, education and employment.

Now, you could argue that the historical and environmental conditions are what give rise to these differences, and I would possibly then reply by comparing Sweden and the UK, which you could also explain by similar mechanisms. The thing is, at some point, these historical mechanisms are sufficiently local that small groups of people can be said to have made a difference. There is no way that your kind of deterministic framework can explain the variety of human society without some fuzziness around the edges. And people can live in the fuzziness, can change the fuzziness, maybe to the extent that the fuzziness effects the whole, over a long enough period. Thats what political movements try to do, surely?
 
 
diz
16:39 / 21.09.07
But this is far too crude an argument to support your strongly apathetic conclusion. It is true that technology, history and conditions form a large explanation of where we are - a capitalist world, say - but the variations within that system, while small from a distant historical perspective, are extremely significant to the people they effect.

Fair enough, but you've already anticipated my counterargument there. How much of that variation is the result of conscious political action and how much of that variation simply mirrors similarly slight variations in underlying conditions? My guess is that it's overwhelmingly the latter.

For instance, the EU and the US are both wealthy and capitalist yet are quite different in the treatment of their citizens with respect to health, education and employment.

I think you could make a compelling argument from geography and historical patterns of migration there, i.e. basically, America has always had the whole "boundless frontier of the West" myth going on, whereas Europe has not. From there, you could trace the roots of huge differences in the expected relationships between the state, the community, and the individual.

Now, you could argue that the historical and environmental conditions are what give rise to these differences, and I would possibly then reply by comparing Sweden and the UK, which you could also explain by similar mechanisms.

Exactly.

The thing is, at some point, these historical mechanisms are sufficiently local that small groups of people can be said to have made a difference. There is no way that your kind of deterministic framework can explain the variety of human society without some fuzziness around the edges. And people can live in the fuzziness, can change the fuzziness, maybe to the extent that the fuzziness effects the whole, over a long enough period.

Which is why I said the following in the other thread:

"Of course, this begs the question of why I’m so irritated by Olulabelle’s post when I don’t actually have any confidence in anyone’s ability to actually affect the sorts of changes being discussed. It’s mostly because it’s incredibly frustrating to see potential allies put so much thought and effort and outrage put into a course of action which is at best useless, and at worst counterproductive, when the same energy could be put into doing something that’s actually useful.

It’s much easier (read: it’s actually possible) to have a lot of influence on the small scale, creating niche environments where the prevailing norms are a lot closer to your ideals than perhaps they are in the broader society, and then try to lure people inside. You can’t really change existing society, but you can work on building a more attractive alternative and selling it to people, possibly by tailoring it to meet the same needs people feel are being fulfilled by the things you’d like to change."


Which can be read as a companion piece to this from upthread:

You can protest, you can vote, you can boycott, you can do whatever you damn well please, but you cannot change the fundamental realities involved. You can try to negotiate a better deal for yourself, or for someone else you think is getting screwed, but you can't change the fundamentals.

(emphasis added)

My position is basically this:

1) We live in a consumerist capitalist society, and that's not changing in any real sense anytime in the foreseeable future no matter what anyone does.
2) In such a society, everything is eventually commodified, including sex and sexual displays. Again, that's not changing in any real sense anytime in the foreseeable future no matter what anyone does.
3) As long as there is demand for sex and sexual displays, there will be supply.
4) Yes, there are what we might euphemistically call "power implications" in any such exchange. That sucks on a lot of levels, and it sucks disproportionately for women, but see points 1-3.
5) Like any industry, the best thing we can do to ensure that people in the industry get the best deal possible, and that the industry works with the least harm to society, is to bring it as far out in the open as we can.
6) Additionally, by doing so, we open up room for niche markets, which dramatically expands the range of permissible expression, which in turn increases acceptance of marginal groups.

No, it's not perfect, but it's never going to be perfect, and we can't let the perfect be the enemy of the good. People will do things that probably aren't psychologically healthy for them, but when is that not the case, and do the benefits of any proposed intervention to protect people from themselves outweigh the costs?
 
 
Phex: Dorset Doom
19:35 / 21.09.07
I think you could make a compelling argument from geography and historical patterns of migration there, i.e. basically, America has always had the whole "boundless frontier of the West" myth going on, whereas Europe has not. From there, you could trace the roots of huge differences in the expected relationships between the state, the community, and the individual.

True, but you would have to account for the very similar behavior all over the world in regards to the male gaze and female reactions to it (one of which being 'getting 'em out for the lads' for fun or profit). The UK has FHM's amateur pics section, the US has Girls Gone Wild and the planet's biggest pornography industry, and yet one's a relatively young Republican superpower and the other's a constitutional Monarchy that has fallen far from it's superpower status. One has Citizens, the other Subjects. Women's bodies are treated similarly everywhere- in a Communist, Anarchist, Fascist or pre-Industrial state people still like to look at the parts of women's bodies that they eroticise (often breasts, buttocks and genitals) and are willing to give money and esteem to women who will satisfy that desire. Sex work isn't just the oldest profession, it's the most widespread, so I don't think Capitalism is to blame here (Barbe-heresy I know).

Also, I'm unsure what Diz means by 'niche markets' in point six. Would this be pornography that falls outside the long-legs-big-breasts-white-18-to-25-year-old-female market, allowing women of different races and body types? Fetish imagery- from BDSM to balloon-popping? Even more taboo subjects? All or none of the above?
How does point five lead to point six? US based video pornography is very well policed, actors are generally well paid and cared for and it is certainly out in the open- there are few people who wouldn't know the names of Jenna Jameson or Ron Jeremy. And yet there are still massive problems with the representations of people of color in porn, the way women are described (as 'sluts', 'whores' etc.) and the industry is still dominated by non-fetish hardcore porn aimed at straight men with all the problems that entails (see Adult Video News's NSFW Charts NSFW for an eye-opening view of the kind of representations of women that sell).

Finally- the idea of False Consciousness isn't getting much play at the moment and could potentially be a good line of inquiry in this or it's own thread. Somebody want to pick up the ball here?
 
 
Tryphena Absent
19:54 / 21.09.07
1) We live in a consumerist capitalist society, and that's not changing in any real sense anytime in the foreseeable future no matter what anyone does.

That is such a vast over-simplification that I'm not sure what you're trying to say. Presumably you're talking purely about the US and Europe, it still means very little though, for one thing they have completely different systems of governance, states have different laws, European countries are structured in completely different ways from governmental perspectives. They also differ economically, which seems important when you're addressing commodification. Forget historical and cultural explanations, explain why their differences today amount to them being the same consumerist capitalist society because at the moment your explanation strikes me as brief and lazy and I don't understand the points you're trying to make about the world as a direct result of their simplification.

In such a society, everything is eventually commodified

Which society? The attitude to the commodification of the human body is completely different in Poland, Iran, Sweden and the US.
 
 
Closed for Business Time
20:36 / 21.09.07
Can someone take a shot at enlightening a poor eedjet on what exactly the commodification of the body is supposed to entail? I mean, for example, how does one go from not being commodified to the opposite? Or was I never a non-commodity, eg are we conceived and born every inch the commodity, no more no less commodity than the office worker or the sex worker?

As far as I know, I have been the subject of socioeconomic calculation and legislation all my life, from state child support from when I was born (not counting the medical apparatus that presided over my mum's pregnancy and delivery) through education (I did college, which is state funded in Norway) up until now, when I work for money. I am undoubtedly partly a commodity. My parents had life insurance for us - so in economic terms my dad bet some of his money against a lot of the insurance company's that he, or I for that matter, wouldn't die or be maimed. Etc etc.

So that's one issue I have with the concepts of commodification and objectification - they do not, IMO, have much critical or discriminatory power beyond asserting the near trivial social fact that we are able to stipulate a monetary value to almost every single thing out there. When you think about it, there are surprisingly few things, entities, occurences, objects, processes, objects, systems, concepts or ideas out there that per definision cannot be at least partially described in terms of money. Or no?
 
 
Tryphena Absent
21:24 / 21.09.07
I think you just answered your own question.
 
 
Olulabelle
22:09 / 21.09.07

Sorry to go back a bit but first to Tryphena:

Olulabelle, I want to know why you think this is the case? Which women feel this? How do you know they think it's the ultimate accolade? Why should their choice be frowned upon because we don't like it? We don't have to put our tits online, I feel like we need to make a society where we can put our tits online if we want to, not tell other people not to. I know that's an idealistic view but I don't particularly frown on porn, home made or otherwise and the point is if a load of men put their unmentionables online no one would automatically say "but teenage boys everywhere are going to compare their cock sizes to these men" (even if they did).


I think putting your tits online is fine and wicked if you're putting them up there for yourself, or on your own site - or as your own user picture or whatever. My problem is with 'Assess my breasts' type sites, run by mens magazines, for men. I don't particularly have a problem with porn either but actually I don't really see putting your tits online to be assessed as porn. Porn is supposed to be arousing. Tits being assessed is almost clinical - it's like women asking for good marks from the men. I worry that that kind of 'display for approval' has become so common place amongst young women that everyone now appears to think it's perfectly acceptable to have your tits assessed. That to think otherwise is being a killjoy. It's nothing to do with porn or not liking tits or not wanting people to get them out. It's the manner in which they are got out.
 
 
diz
22:50 / 21.09.07
I worry that that kind of 'display for approval' has become so common place amongst young women that everyone now appears to think it's perfectly acceptable to have your tits assessed.

Of course it's perfectly "acceptable" (to whom?) to have your tits assessed. It's perfectly "acceptable" to assess anything or having anything assessed. Assessing is what human brains do. We are constantly sizing each other up as potential threats/mates/partners in some cooperative enterprise and using all available data to do it. Everyone who looks at everyone is assessing everything about them they can all the time: body size, body shape, body language, facial expression, vocal tone, etc etc.

More to come.
 
 
Olulabelle
08:41 / 22.09.07
Sorry, I'm obviously not very good at explaining myself. I actually don't think it is perfectly acceptable that society seems to have convinced lots of young women that a way to get validation from men is to have their tits assessed. I keep reading about this free society we're now in where anything goes, but I think that's just an example of a society that seems to define sexuality mainly from a male point of view. Women are free to have their breasts assessed but if they don't fit the sexual standard of big and pert on a small frame then chances are they'll be rated down. It's a patriarchal society defining what it classes as sexy, masquerading as free liberal behaviour. When you have your breasts assessed you only get good marks if they conform to the sexy standard. So women are having to validate themselves by what men decide is sexy.
 
 
Tryphena Absent
09:08 / 22.09.07
I think you're also talking about the dehumanising action of having a group of strangers online assess your breasts rather than a lover or someone who looks at your breasts in the context of your body.

Everyone who looks at everyone is assessing everything about them they can all the time: body size, body shape, body language, facial expression, vocal tone, etc etc.

They're not dehumanising them though, they're meeting people and wondering if they want to be around them more. That's not happening on an assess my breasts website. The problem is where do you start criticising it? We could make big claims about immorality or the destruction of female confidence but I don't think either of them work, I think the real problem is that it props up unhealthy male attitudes, a default that's easy to lapse into when the environment is pressured, something I like to callcockswinging and we do see quite a lot of that, don't we Olulabelle?
 
 
Phex: Dorset Doom
10:25 / 22.09.07
Guys see it too, and it pisses off those of us smart enough to see through it.
 
 
Closed for Business Time
11:36 / 22.09.07
I think you're also talking about the dehumanising action of having a group of strangers online assess your breasts rather than a lover or someone who looks at your breasts in the context of your body.

Are you the arguing that the mediated nature of the assessment makes it more dehumanising? Wouldn't the opposite be just as likely though - that one would feel equally dehumanised IRL? I mean, if I, as a man, gawp and whistle at some random woman's covered breasts or bottom on the streets or somewhere public, is that less dehumanising to her and her surroundings (possibly including myself) than if I do it online or through the Sun? Seems a leetle strange to me.
 
 
Tryphena Absent
11:49 / 22.09.07
Yes it's less dehumanising (particularly if you don't believe in the cartesian mind-body split). That man is whistling at your physicality but more the way you've turned yourself out. He's whistling at the way you've consciously constructed yourself and if you don't like it then there's no problem with turning round and telling him to fuck off. If he insults you it only means it sunk in that he was being a moron and he's a little defensive. You have some power in that brief and frankly absurd relationship. I think it's pretty clear why having someone judge what you were born to, that you have only surgical control over, who you can't judge in return is different.
 
 
Closed for Business Time
12:26 / 22.09.07
I can see that a woman could feel more empowered and in charge in a street encounter and the like, inasmuch as there's a two way interaction where the judge can become the judged an vice versa. But I do think the argument falls slightly apart when you consider that the interaction in mediated gazing is one way only, that from naked female to male gazer. The gazer might judge or assess the representation of you, the mediated construct, but he's not judging the person behind the construct. He can call the representation whatever he wants in front of his colleagues and mates, he can bring it home and have a wank over it, but frankly, that only affects the woman in the picture in a very roundabout and abstract fashion. I mean, unless there's something inherently dehumanising in putting representations of sexualised bodies into mass media (and by extension, looking at/consuming such representations), I'm not sure I follow your line of reasoning. I'm not saying you are wrong, I'm just saying I don't fully grasp some of the implicit assumptions in your argument.

On further thought - I want to make it clear that I'm not saying that the widespread mass mediation of sexualised (overwhelmingly female) bodies aren't having any systemic effects on how we construct ourselves and others as sexual actors and objects. Clearly they do. I just don't understand how mediation of sexual displays increases dehumanising any more than the mediation of most other kinds of identity markers, and also I am not fully clear on how mediation can take away the empowerment of the represented without also taking away the possibilities that the consumer of the representation has to hurt the person who has chosen to mediate herself.
 
 
Tryphena Absent
13:48 / 22.09.07
Hang on I'm going to answer this with a question because I think you're considering this purely theoretically and this isn't really theoretical since these things happen. So if you put your penis on an assess your penis site, regardless of the final score would it be more or less dehumanising than if a girl eyed you up on the street?
 
  

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