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Allecto, I think I'd read those in complete reverse-sentiment. Claiming someone's 'making' one attracted to them would be presuming their consciously making an effort for/towards one. That they're hot, would seem to be more honest of an opinion, since they're clearly, especially if you're talking about someone online based only on a photograph or tenuous familiarity, not 'making' you do anything, and the read is purely personal/internally-manifest.
Unless that's what you meant and I'm misreading.
I do think this is a question that could be moved over to another forum for some real dissection, though. Headshop or Art/Fashion, which doesn't get enough traffic.
I don't know how it is elsewhere, particularly (although I did get myself into trouble a couple times in Jordan for it), but in the States there seems to be a significant run of paranoia about up-front compliments. I compliment/comment on people's hair, shoes, general air of good-lookingness all the time, often without thinking it through very well, just because something strikes me, and a fair amount of the time, the complimented is pretty sure I'm angling somewhere.
We could get mileage and great use out of such a thread, I'd think. Discussion on the whats and whens and hows of compliments/comments and objectification. People fishing for comments, and when they get them, how there's bound to be someone on-hand to take offense. The whole 'all women are little sister' mentality. The 'Can't you take a compliment? I just said you've got fine titties.' mentality. And so on through dishonest backpeddling and/or earnest statements of appreciation. |
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