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Quantum
16:56 / 13.12.06
Zim/Dib slash image why no link? WHERE IS THE LINK PUNY HUMAN DIRTBABY!!? I DEMAND LINKAGE!
 
 
Princess
17:02 / 13.12.06
Oh goodness. I found it.
I'm more weirded out by the fact that both characters have become tall, aesthetic, angelic types, and the fact that they are in love, than the slash itself.

But still, goodness.
 
 
Quantum
17:04 / 13.12.06
Who is the Tallest?
 
 
Ticker
17:11 / 13.12.06
I think we're looking at different images, there appear to be a whole lot of them and the fanfic slash is like stumbling upon a hidden world of filthy filthy stuffed animal pornographers.
(Gawd I should have known...)

..and shouldn't that be: "Who's Your Tallest?"
 
 
Princess
17:44 / 13.12.06
You speak craziness, Earth boy! More organs means more human!
-Zim

Possibly this should be crossposted with the otherkin thread?
 
 
Quantum
18:49 / 13.12.06
What do we call people who aren't Zimkin?
 
 
Ticker
19:57 / 13.12.06
Dibkin?
 
 
Aha! I am Klarion
23:35 / 13.12.06
I hate to say it, but I am something of Muggle myself. To be more specific, I find myself being very skeptical, even a little snobbish to any sort of magical-minded person I meet in my offline life. Online or reading books or in my own practice, I have little trouble diving in head first to the whole scene. I am what you call a hypocrite.

Two examples:

First, today, oddly enough, I was waiting in a classroom for the teacher to show up and administer the finals. A friend of mine (who is not "into" magick as far as I know, but who loves fantasy, folklore, and the like) had drawn a Celtic symbol on the board for good luck. My first reaction was to just smirk and tck! my tongue at this. Suddenly, I realized I was being a complete snob. I was simply falling back on my old pragmatic Jewish mind-set (no mysticism, no idols, etc.) that I held in my youth. This was totally unfair and hypocritical. I did a 180 and thought to myself "Gee, it would be great if this helped! I hope it does! How nice of him to think of us! etc." I was just being snobbish about other people’s view of magick, which is just dull of me.

The second example happened over the Thanksgiving break. I was visiting with a friend who had converted from a Born-Again Christian to Judaism a long time ago. Still, whenever they were feeling extremely depressed or ill they would go to a Christian church or ask someone to pray for them. This friend was diagnosed with MS recently and was feeling extremely ill while at work one day. A local preacher (some kind of Baptist, I think) happened to be in the office she worked at and asked how she was feeling. She said she felt awful that day and, to make a long story short, the preacher preformed some kind of laying of hands on her in the office and she claimed to feel a lot better soon after.

When I heard this story, I got extremely upset! Really reactionary mad. I just responded by saying "Bullshit, that's bullshit" in a very harsh tone of voice. Until once again, I remembered that I am in a very similar boat. Even though I still identify myself as a Jew to most people I meet who ask me about my religious affiliation and act like a rational, secularist most of the time, I had still had been launching sigils like crazy for over six months. I had no reason to get upset over magick (even if it didn't fit into my worldview or interpretation) that worked.

It taught me the following:

1) I obviously like to place myself in an elevated position above other people that is perhaps unfair, snobbish, and unthinking.

2) I, as a pagan (or pagan-lite, really) or chaos-magician, don't have exclusivity on the magick or the ability to use it.

3) I have to realize that everybody has a little Muggle in them and vice versa.
“We are Muggles, No one is a Muggle.”
 
 
EmberLeo
07:48 / 14.12.06
well, how does one explain quickly to another person that a third party takes two sugars in their tea?

"Ixnay on the oneyhay" ?

Point taken, though I still think the word wouldn't be used as I encounter it if it didn't serve some convenient purpose beyond a superiority simplex.

Lots of people use terms like that and apply them to lots of other people; doesn't make them terribly helpful.

No, but it does make it human nature, which I admit to having a high tolerance for barring examples of intolerance (which it hadn't crossed my mind to consider these before, so I suppose I should thank you folks for the enlightenment. Now pardon me while I continue to use the word "Mundane" the way I always have over here. ;p )

Being religious/magical and calling people Muggles/Mundane is to infer they don't have anything of their own. How the fuck do we know that their life isn't rife with magic and spirituality just of a profoundly different flavor?

Er, well no, actually, I fully assume they do indeed have something of their own - the Mundane is Sacred after all.

In HP (I haven't read book 6, so don't tell me!) I always thought it would be fun if some clueful Muggle just walked right up to one of the uppity pureblood-wizard types and shot him with a nice biiiiig purely technological GUN. Maybe that's just carryover from Buffy fandom. No weapon forged by man? That was before Bazookas.

Zombies! run!

*falls out of her chair giggling* Ow ow ow ow.

--Ember--
 
 
ONLY NICE THINGS
10:38 / 14.12.06
Now pardon me while I continue to use the word "Mundane" the way I always have over here. ;p

As a pejorative term for people who turn up to Ren Faires in blue jeans? It's a bit ... fatbeard for my tastes, but there we go. Comfort and familiarity are important.
 
 
Less searchable M0rd4nt
11:11 / 14.12.06
xk, you have stumbled across one of the immutable laws of the internet: There is porn of it. No exceptions.
 
 
Papess
12:27 / 14.12.06
It taught me the following:

1) I obviously like to place myself in an elevated position above other people that is perhaps unfair, snobbish, and unthinking.


Well, you are not the only one, Procrastination's Mercury.

It doesn't matter what side of the magickal fence we place ourselves, we always (more often than not, anyway), wish to be in the superior position. Furthermore, why would one knowingly, choose to take an inferior position? So, believing one's position is superior goes hand in hand with taking that position, or any position.

I think a lot of people that may seem mundane, might not want to relinquish the saftey net of good sense provided by science and skepticism, but still relish and entertain the possiblities of magick and the paranormal.

In a similar way that I understand everyone is enlightened (it is just a matter of time and our perception of time, really), I think I agree with Xk. These things are available to anyone, it is just a matter of application. My perception of those that are not magickally inclined is that person is learning other things at this time, or it isn't relative to their life, or this life. I guess I view non-occultists as being dormant magicians, even if they may disagree with me. I certainly couldn't agree with the reversal of that - I am not a dormant christian, for example.
 
 
ONLY NICE THINGS
12:44 / 14.12.06
So, believing one's position is superior goes hand in hand with taking that position, or any position.

You see, I don't agree with that, and it seems from the rest of your post that you don't either. If I decide not to be a beekeeper, it isn't necessarily a judgement on others who are beekeepers. It is just a reflection of my opinion of my own suitability for beekeeping. Not being a beekeeper is right for me, but it isn't superior.
 
 
Papess
13:35 / 14.12.06
Yes, I see your point, Haus. That is a healthy objective attitude to have on one's position. However, anything that strays from that even-handed perception about one's own beliefs in relation to another's beliefs, is what appears as superiority/inferiority dilema. It takes a certain diligence, as in Procrastination's Mercury case, to be aware of that, no matter what one believes personally.
 
 
Papess
13:39 / 14.12.06
I don't mean in any case, as in a beekeeper. I am being specific to beliefs systems, not hobbies.
 
 
ONLY NICE THINGS
14:12 / 14.12.06
That's certainly true - which then possibly leads on to whether magic is a belief system or a hobby, or indeed a profession, as beekeeping can be. People have talked, above, of magic being for them something that they do, rather than something that they believe in, per se. And, by contrast, Emberleo has talked about the term "mundane" being used to describe people who do not play Dungeons and Dragons - that is, people can apparently be mundane for reasons that have nothing to do with their belief systems, unless it be belief in the tremendous fun to be had from a really good Ravenloft campaign.
 
 
Ticker
14:23 / 14.12.06
well we all get rather team spirited about our favorite Operating Systems, doesn't matter if we're talking about cosmologies or personal computer flavors.

Tribal loyalty plays a large part in our world views sometimes and it is easy to get ruffled feathers when brushing up against views that expressly refute your own.

It is fascinating what we call bullshit on and the criteria that leads us to that decision. I'm aware of being quite harsh sometimes with other people's practices simply because I've been trained/conditioned to see tham as dangerous. Often the tension I feel is not having a clear sense of separation between their actions and the impact on my existence. Again on some basic level I feel put upon by their actions even if there is no clear reason why I should. In my case this is probably a hold over from my social tribal conditioning and as such has rather a lot of layers to deconstruct. I tend to regulate my environment and those in contact with me as a safety factor. The issues of control often do not translate well to modern life in the sense that what someone does way over there probably doesn't impact me as much as if my direct tribe members are doing it. Yet on a magical level sometimes the opposite is true and what they are doing does impact me. ( 'Trix I suspect this is your POV on the G.O thingy?)

So sometimes the feeling of wanting to call bullshit is from a legit direct impact reason. I call bullshit on people dumping things in my tangible environment or energetically doing so. However sometimes the control issues we all feel need to be shelved out of compassion and respect for other people's needs.

I find labels of Mundane/Muggle/Sheeple/etc to automaticly set up a dynamic of disrespect. Language is our first framing gesture to another and if we have framed someone as lesser than us in language it will shape our interaction.

Anima Mundi is the Soul of the World and while we would like to think we can pull this sacred resonance into the term 'mundane' it just ain't so. Certain words acquire baggage over time and while our intent to reclaim the orignial or better meaning is valid we need to respect the impact of the word on other people's filters. Mundane has come to infer something dismissable of commonplace boring origins. It no longer has the same taken meaning as 'worldly' for example.

Once it is pointed out that a term used is inherently disrespectful, what does it mean if we cling to it? Does it reveal an arrogance on our part that our perspectives are more valid than anothers? Does it reveal that we find some forms of disrespect acceptable?

To revisit the issue of Othering I'd present that continuing to apply words of segregation indicates we have not addressed the underlying cause of why it is important to our identities to be viewed as distinct. Why do we need the placeholder of not-us in relation to the group being Othered?

MC: I fear you are quite correct and yet I cannot bring myself to goggle kitten porn.
 
 
ONLY NICE THINGS
14:51 / 14.12.06

Anima Mundi is the Soul of the World and while we would like to think we can pull this sacred resonance into the term 'mundane' it just ain't so. Certain words acquire baggage over time and while our intent to reclaim the orignial or better meaning is valid we need to respect the impact of the word on other people's filters. Mundane has come to infer something dismissable of commonplace boring origins. It no longer has the same taken meaning as 'worldly' for example.


Absolutely. This is for me at the heart of the issue. It's simply not the same as saying "x does not practice magic/dress up to go to Renaissance fairs/play Dungeons and Dragons/listen to Slipknot". "Muggle" is somewhat different, but actually only somewhat - it refers, after all, to a universe in which the magical practitioners are the protagonists and get to do all the fun stuff, while the "muggles" are effaced almost totally from the narrative - kept in the dark about the really real, occasionally murdered as cannon fodder, and when they actually appear portrayed as ... well, as the Dursleys. I don't imagine we need to parse sheeple, do we?
 
 
Papess
15:28 / 14.12.06
The issues of control often do not translate well to modern life in the sense that what someone does way over there probably doesn't impact me as much as if my direct tribe members are doing it. Yet on a magical level sometimes the opposite is true and what they are doing does impact me. ( 'Trix I suspect this is your POV on the G.O thingy?)

Yes, and you also expanded on the relationship to those we identify with and yet conflict with, within our percieved tribe. If someone within the percieved parameters, of your tribe is doing something that you may disapprove of or believe is not part of the percieved common system, it seems to be simplier to just not identify that person with one's belief system any longer, than to change one's own belief system. Thus, we have the shunning.


Joking aside, and on the question of the status of magick: I think it is important to consider the quality of the relationship one has with magick, but also consider the quality of magick, itself. (As I think Haus was pointing out.) It causes me to question the seriousness with which one approaches magick as to whether it is a hobby or a belief system. I would also question whether bee-keeping (maybe this example lost it's legs) could be considered a belief system.

As for magick being considered a profession, that is easy: Do you get paid for doing magick? This doesn't discount that magick could be both a belief system and a profession for an individual.
 
 
Ticker
15:55 / 14.12.06
Is a plumber invested in the functional reason for plumbing in our society or can they do it without any philosophical investment?

Many of us have jobs and skills we utilize because we can and they afford us compensation. I can't really say I believe my job is essential to making life better only that it is currently required and I'm good enough at it to make a living. If I could sustain myself with something I was more invested in I'd be doing it.

there are some folks with an atheist approach who would apply a similar rationale to religious thinking (at least that's what I gather when I can endure the thread next door discussing such things). They seem to be percieving religion as an optional luxury item that may or may not help/hinder.

in contrast to my current career, my current religion is the best fit I can find and I'm much more invested in it. I personally understand that it may change dramatically over time but it will essentially remain the same.

the trying out of careers is quite common nowadays as is switching entirely. The same seems to be happening with spiritual beliefs becoming more fluid and adaptive.

to call something a career, hobby, or job implies levels of dedication that may be deceptive. some people are quite fickle with careers and absolutely given over to their hobbies. I find the more as I go along the more my literal place of employement fits a casual attitude of a hobby ( though needful at present) and my hobbies are rising in importance. Even more strangely I find my spiritual life becoming more career like everyday. It is quite interesting to contemplate the transition of becoming clergy.
 
 
EmberLeo
22:45 / 14.12.06
As a pejorative term for people who turn up to Ren Faires in blue jeans? It's a bit ... fatbeard for my tastes, but there we go. Comfort and familiarity are important.

Er, no, as a succinct term for people who aren't involved in the extended fannish community. At least in my mind, it's not actually pejorative anymore than "geek" is pejorative when referring to us (anymore, eh?), hence my willingness to continue using it.

FWIW, though I know some folks who do, I've never used "Muggle" for referring to non-pagans. Even if I did, I wouldn't assume non-pagan meant lacking in mysticism, but it's just never caught on with me.

(I'll reply to the rest when I have more time to read it, but that was directed at me personally, so I thought I should reply.)

--Ember--
 
 
EmberLeo
23:03 / 14.12.06
Once it is pointed out that a term used is inherently disrespectful, what does it mean if we cling to it?

Well, I don't think it is inherently disrespectful. I think it can be disrespectful. So somebody else pointing out that they consider that disrespect inherint doesn't necessarily mean that's actually the case.

I'm thinking about it, though, and realizing that I've always had an assumption that being "normal" is "better", and "Mundane" == "normal". By identifying with "Geek" instead, I'm primarily labelling myself in a way that is embracing my own otherness... and in some ways, assuming my own inferiority. So to my perspective, if there's any reason I should give up the term "Mundane" despite it's less-than-horrible prevalence in my local community, it's because it's self-defeating, rather than because it's insulting to others. If I do give up "Mundane" then I must also give up "Geek", and should probably give up a number of other labels I used to describe things succinctly.

This qualifies as a slippery slope argument, but I'll toss it out anyway: When does a Noun or an Adjective - both necessary aspects of descriptive speech - become a "Label" or "Sterotype" that should be discarded?

When does the line go from describing to disrespecting, and why doesn't it seem to matter what was actually intended by the speaker if somebody else sees the line as having been crossed? Does it matter who and how many people feel it's been crossed?

I agree there are many items on both sides of the line, mind you, but I don't always know how to cope with how harsh a response can be for stepping into the grey area. The internet makes this worse, of course, because local tendancies vary greatly, and the 'net brings us all together to be offended by eachother's casual language.

--Ember--
 
 
ONLY NICE THINGS
01:00 / 15.12.06
I think what you're not getting, Emberleo, is that mundane means:

common; ordinary; banal; unimaginative. (Random House)

One may feel that the mundane is sacred. I believe beards to be a part of the Divinity's cosmic plan. And yet to call somebody a mundane or a fatbeard is not, I think, totally relevant to either of these beliefs. The terms function as put-downs. I think, although I wouldn't want to say for certain, that this is xk's point - that another term, like "non-practitioner", which did not employ a word with that fairly pronounced meaning, would not be quite so ear-pricking.

If you genuinely believe that the "mundanes" are better than you, as a "geek", though - that they are better people, morally better, more cultured, more empathic, more intelligent, as you will, really - that's certainly a different kettle of tench. Do you find that causes communications problems with other "geeks"?
 
 
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06:53 / 15.12.06
The idea that the majority of people are stumbling through life having the wool pulled over their eyes by teh conspiracy, or are trapped in a common sense reality tunnel, or are drones of the materialist hive-mind blind to the glories of teh majix is unfortunately all too common. Discuss or dismember here




This is from the Lankavatara sutra, and I think it might be an interesting addition here :

'Mahamati, since the ignorant and simple-minded, not knowing that the world is only something seen of the mind itself, cling to the multitudinous-ness of external objects, cling to the notions of beings and non-being, oneness and otherness, both-ness and non-both-ness, existence and non-existence eternity and non-eternity, and think that they have a self-nature of their own, and all of which rises from the discriminations of the mind and is perpetuated by habit-energy, and from which they are given over to false imagination. It is all like a mirage in which springs of water are seen as if they were real. They are imagined by animals who, made thirsty by the heat of the season, run after them. Animals not knowing that the springs are merely hallucinations of their own minds, do not realize that there are no such springs. In the same way, Mahamati, the ignorant and simple-minded, their minds burning with the fires of greed, anger and folly, finding delight in a world of multitudinous forms, their thoughts obsessed with ideas of birth, growth and destruction, not well understanding what is meant by existence and non-existence, and being impressed by erroneous discriminations and speculations since beginning-less time, fall into the habit of grasping this and that and thereby becoming attached to them.

It is like the city of the Gandharvas which the unwitting take to be a real city when in fact it is not so. The city appears as in a vision owing to their attachment to the memory of a city preserved in the mind as a seed; the city can thus be said to be both existent and non-existent. In the same way, clinging to the memory of erroneous speculations and doctrines accumulated since beginning-less time, they hold fast to such ideas as oneness and otherness, being and non-being, and their thoughts are not at all clear as to what after all is only seen of the mind. It is like a man dreaming in his sleep of a country that seems to be filled with various men, women, elephants, horses, cars, pedestrians, villages, towns, hamlets, cows, buffalos, mansions, woods, mountains, rivers and lakes, and who moves about in that city until he is awakened. As he lies half awake, he recalls the city of his dreams and reviews his experiences there; what do you think, Mahamati, is this dreamer who is letting his mind dwell upon the various unrealities he has seen in his dream, is he to be considered wise or foolish? In the same way, the ignorant and simple-minded who are favorably influenced by the erroneous views of the philosophers do not recognize that the views that are influencing them are only dream-like ideas originating in the mind itself, and consequently they are held fast by their notions of oneness and otherness, of being and non-being. It is like a painter’s canvas on which the ignorant imagine they see the elevations and depressions of mountains and valleys.'


Equanimity would probably be the best thing in this case. For the record, I don't believe this situation, but am playing Devils advocate and adding another side to this because I think it's needed, especially after seeing this type of argument go on and on so much around here over time.
 
 
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07:04 / 15.12.06
And to add one more thing : To be honest, it seems like a lot of us (Western world people especially) have built so much that we're scared to lose it, let it go, or have the 'reality' (semblance of realness, perhaps) of it threatened with these ideas. The idea that this might all be an illusion after all is very fucking scary when you have so much to lose, and have invested thousands of years building something that you've called 'home' and love dearly. (attachement, maybe.) Just a counterpoint to most of the other stuff here anyway.
 
 
ONLY NICE THINGS
08:01 / 15.12.06
Help me out, Te - how do you see that informing this discussion? Is your point that people build ego fortifications, such as by walling themselves into one identity and then finding words to wall others into prescribed identities, like "muggle"?
 
 
EmberLeo
09:46 / 15.12.06
common; ordinary; banal; unimaginative. (Random House)

common and ordinary are synonymous with "normal" last I checked (in the thesaurus, moments ago).

One may feel that the mundane is sacred. I believe beards to be a part of the Divinity's cosmic plan.

*blinks* Um... okay, I don't really see how those are at all equivalent, but that's not really the issue, so I won't dig into it here.

that another term, like "non-practitioner", which did not employ a word with that fairly pronounced meaning, would not be quite so ear-pricking.

Fair enough, I suppose. "Non-Practitioner" pricks my ear the way "non-monogamous" instead of "polyamorous" does, but I suppose "mundane" isn't less geek-centric a term. That does raise a whole series of questions about how the groups became sepparate enough in the first place to need an "us, not-us" description.

If you genuinely believe that the "mundanes" are better than you, as a "geek", though - that they are better people, morally better, more cultured, more empathic, more intelligent, as you will, really - that's certainly a different kettle of tench. Do you find that causes communications problems with other "geeks"?

Not really, because it's the relative value isn't presumed in the term. I don't know any geeks who would argue that fen are more socially adept on average, and few would argue we're more empathic on average (though I think actually we're more polarized - some are overwhelmed by their empathy, others have less. Either way, most of us have empathy outside the functional median). I wouldn't assert that fen are less intelligent than average, and morals are all over the scale on both sides. Cultured depends on perspective - Mundanes are, in my experience, much more functional in the mainstream culture. Fen are generally quite thoroughly steeped in alternative culture. I haven't any idea which would qualify as "more cultured".

Mundane is indeed an "Other" term, in this context. I'm aware on a much more detailed level of the traits of the group I'm included in that distinguish it from those not in the group. Not all of those traits are negative, but they're not all positive either. There are differences in communication style, culture, and perspective, to the point where it's actually documented by anthropologists and psychologists.

Words like "gaijin", "gringo", "gadje", etc. etc. for "outsiders" are generally intended as insults, as far as I've seen. And yet "gentile" is not.

So what makes othering okay sometimes and not others? And don't tell me it's being a minority, because the whole point behind "Mundanes" being a word to describe "others" who are "normal" is that "we" are a minority.

I should probably say that I find this all actually really interesting - especially that I have to fight the tendancy to be defensive. I'm just not sure how I'm going to remove a word from my vocabularly that is so obviously deeply ingrained. I'm aware that I am no longer the same person I was when I picked it up, but I am also aware that I picked it up very casually - not because I was in a context where folks used it as an insult and it was cool to insult, but because there really didn't seem to be any harm at all in it.

It's not hard for me to avoid using it in contexts where it might cause a problem for others, but avoiding it entirely is going to be awfully hard, if that's what I end up trying to do.

--Ember--
 
 
Quantum
11:52 / 15.12.06
Ember, would you hesitate to use 'muggle' in place of 'mundane'? Because to me they're interchangeable terms, mundane has strong connotations of banal, boring, prosaic, masses, greyfaces, sheeple etc. if somebody called me mundane I'd be pissed off and probably retort, whether or not i was into the occult.
 
 
ONLY NICE THINGS
12:04 / 15.12.06
What's interesting for me here, Emberleo, is that you appear to be resisting the possibility that "mundane" (when you use it) could ever be offensive in intention or correct reception, to the point of denying outright the standard usages of the word. Which strikes me as fascinating. Let us consider the scene. One is at table, and the chef asks how one is finding the lamb.

"It's really very mundane," one offers. Now, how is the chef likely to take this?

Of course, personal meanings can differ. You said, above:

I'm thinking about it, though, and realizing that I've always had an assumption that being "normal" is "better", and "Mundane" == "normal". By identifying with "Geek" instead, I'm primarily labelling myself in a way that is embracing my own otherness... and in some ways, assuming my own inferiority. So to my perspective, if there's any reason I should give up the term "Mundane" despite it's less-than-horrible prevalence in my local community, it's because it's self-defeating, rather than because it's insulting to others.

Hence my question about whether you genuinely believed that people who you were calling "mundane" were better than you, and better than your friends in fandom, since if that were the case, you would probably be using the term in a very different way from those friends. I still don't entirely understand how that fits together.

This discussion is interesting to me, among other reasons, because it touches on something Persephone, of this parish, said a while back about racial epithets - that people who are not a part of the group on the receiving end of the epithets tend to privilege their own decisions about how and when those epithets' use is acceptable - usually over the decisions of people who get called them. She was talking about a member feeling entitled to use a specific term of abuse directed at black people in order to express his frustration at what he perceived as the reciting of an anti-Irish song.

This is, of course, a very different situation, but some of the circularity one often finds in discussions of calling people "chavs", "mundanes" or whatever are parallel - in essence, that the speaker rather than the audience is entitled to decide on the intent and the appropriate reception of the term, which creates a pretty internally consistent approach to usage, but one that I think depends on a view of communication that is not entirely reality-based.
 
 
ONLY NICE THINGS
12:41 / 15.12.06
Sorry, missed a bit. Back on normal=better - because if that is the case, it seems to break down the disciminatory paradigm - I mean, unless we get onto ressentiment and the like. So, that would be why it doesn't function, at least in your head, as equivalent to something like gringo or gweilo. There's also the question of power imbalance, or lack of it - there is no likely stipulation that the "geek" will be more or less powerful or socially acceptable than the "mundane".

"Geek" might be useful here. When I first read:

At least in my mind, it's not actually pejorative anymore than "geek" is pejorative when referring to us (anymore, eh?), hence my willingness to continue using it.

I parsed "any more" as meaning "any longer" in its second appearance. That is, it is no more perjorative than "geek" is, with the sense that it is no longer pejorative to call somebody a geek. However, looking at it again I think it means - "To my mind, calling somebody a 'mundane' is no more offensive than a 'mundane' calling me or a member of my identity group a 'geek', and therefore I am willing to continue using it". Which strikes me as an interesting position, because it appears to be saying that the fact that some people who do not self-identify as fen or gamers or similar call those who do "geeks" legitimises the use of "mundane" as a term to use of people who are in some way like the people who do that, whether or not they actually do that - and that while the word geek is used by anyone with (possibly) pejorative intent, it is also reasonable to use the term "mundane" with (possibly) pejorative intent. I'm not sure if that's an accurate reading, though.
 
 
Ticker
13:53 / 15.12.06
This discussion is interesting to me, among other reasons, because it touches on something Persephone, of this parish, said a while back about racial epithets - that people who are not a part of the group on the receiving end of the epithets tend to privilege their own decisions about how and when those epithets' use is acceptable - usually over the decisions of people who get called them.

yes this also quite nails what I'm after.

It was asked when it is acceptable to Other and honestly it never is. Othering implies a rigid distinction regarding a power/privilege dynamic. To remark on differences of experience between specific people is quite different than to lump a person into a vast group that is not Us.

Haus brings up a good point in his mundane mutton example and Twoheaded upthread raised why we even need these terms to draw distinctions. The reason for why we are attached to terms that anyone finds objectionable should raise alarms. What unique element of experience is communicated by the term that no other will do?
Why is the distinction between the groups so essential to our self identity in the first place?

If all ways are sacred and deserving of respect why risk using a term that may evoke disrepect? What is the need being served by keeping the distinction at all?
 
 
ONLY NICE THINGS
14:05 / 15.12.06
On the other hand... we call plumbers plumbers, and that _isn't_ othering. If one sincerely believes that calling somebody a "mundane" is simply a useful identifier of someone's role - what EmberLeo describes as "succinct" - then I can see why it would be considered unproblematic. Personally, I don't think a case can be made with much conviction for the word "mundane" occupying the same class of descriptor as the word "plumber", and I think that Emberleo does not either, since she also says that the term _is_ pejorative, but no more pejorative than another term used across the hypothetical geek-mundane divide in the other direction. This does not exclude the possibility of a non-pejorative usage, but it does suggest that there is a pejorative usage, and that Emberleo, at least, is conscious of the existence of such a usage. In those terms, the next question would be that of whether there was a non-pejorative usage, and if so how it functioned, and how it was clearly non-pejorative.
 
 
Ticker
14:06 / 15.12.06
also it should be noted that the label mundane/muggle is not self applied, usually that is a big giant indicator of underlying disrespect.
 
 
EmberLeo
22:20 / 15.12.06
Ember, would you hesitate to use 'muggle' in place of 'mundane'? Because to me they're interchangeable terms, mundane has strong connotations of banal, boring, prosaic, masses, greyfaces, sheeple etc. if somebody called me mundane I'd be pissed off and probably retort, whether or not i was into the occult.

Umm, I would for three reasons, only maybe one of which has any bearing on this argument.

1) It actually takes me a long time to pick up new slang (which may be why it's so hard for me to drop a word once I've acquired it).

2) My primary point of reference for "Muggle" was Harry Potter, and thus my understanding of "Muggle" is from there. Given my understanding of the word, and the context of the story, everybody I know is a Muggle, because nobody I know who has a physical body gets the kind of instant and fantastical results out of magic that the witches and wizards at Hogwarts get.

3) I'm aware of other contexts, but completely unaware of the meaning conveyed in other contexts.

Emberleo, is that you appear to be resisting the possibility that "mundane" (when you use it) could ever be offensive

Er, no, I'm resisting the possibility that because it can be offensive, it must be offensive.

it touches on something Persephone, of this parish, said a while back about racial epithets

The paralell is not lost on me, which is why this bugs me so much. If I didn't care one way or the other, I wouldn't bother discussing it with you.

that the speaker rather than the audience is entitled to decide on the intent and the appropriate reception of the term, which creates a pretty internally consistent approach to usage, but one that I think depends on a view of communication that is not entirely reality-based.

Not entirely. If you folks had declared that I mustn't ever use the term "mundane" here again, I wouldn't argue the point. But the argument here isn't "We don't like it, don't use it here" the argument here, as I percieve it, is "we don't like it, drop it from your vocabulary".

Then, also, I differentiate between "target" and "audience" in this context. There's the speaker, there are those the speaker is attempting to describe, and then there are those who are hearing the speaker talking. They may be three groups (and in this case I would argue they are).

There is a context argument I can use to clarify, but it doesn't paralell this in use: I call American Indians such, instead of "Native Americans", despite being told by audiences over and over and over that it's inappropriate. This is because I've been told by American Indians over and over that they prefer it, and they are the people being described. It doesn't matter that other people think they wouldn't prefer to be called American Indians if they were a member of that group.

However, I'm aware that this is not specifically the context of Mundane - I am also aware, however, that nobody here was being targeted with that label by me, and given the nature of the term, it's kind of hard to go about asking the concept if it minds the label.

I parsed "any more" as meaning "any longer" in its second appearance. That is, it is no more perjorative than "geek" is, with the sense that it is no longer pejorative to call somebody a geek.

That is what I meant, yes. "Geek" was originally an insult, and now pretty much isn't.

This does not exclude the possibility of a non-pejorative usage, but it does suggest that there is a pejorative usage, and that Emberleo, at least, is conscious of the existence of such a usage. In those terms, the next question would be that of whether there was a non-pejorative usage, and if so how it functioned, and how it was clearly non-pejorative.

Yeah, that summarizes what I'm looking at.

also it should be noted that the label mundane/muggle is not self applied, usually that is a big giant indicator of underlying disrespect.

Perhaps this fuels my confusion - the folks I know who are near to geeks, and pride themselves on being normal instead often DO call themselves "Mundane" as a point of pride.

Haus, I'm aware of the resentment aspect, and it's absoloutely true. But I need to chew on this and come back with a more detailed answer for you.

--Ember--
 
 
ONLY NICE THINGS
22:40 / 15.12.06
Not entirely. If you folks had declared that I mustn't ever use the term "mundane" here again, I wouldn't argue the point. But the argument here isn't "We don't like it, don't use it here" the argument here, as I percieve it, is "we don't like it, drop it from your vocabulary".

Well, as yet the Barbelith mind control beacon is a prototype only. In one case, one of our members very kindly undertook to stop calling women slags on Barbelith, IIRC, out of respect for our sensitity. However, the fact that he did so in a way that made it clear that he would carry on using it with people who knew what he meant - who had common sense, if you like - meant that he would still necessarily be reacted to as a man who chose to call women slags. It's a thing.
 
  

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