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Hmm. Makes we wonder whether the reaction would be different if it was a man using such a tactic to try to lose his virginity...
The prevalent stereotype seems to be that female virgin = someone "innocent", "precious", in need of "protection" from "exploitation", almost as if she was something like an ancient building or an endangered species of butterfly, whereas male virgin = "sweet" in a slightly pitiable way before a certain age, but simply pitiable as a "sad" "loser" after that age, the assumption seeming to be that if a grown woman is still a virgin, she is to be respected for not "giving in" to male pressure (thus assuming that women don't really want sex, but are pressurised into it by men), whereas if a grown man is still a virgin, he is to be disrespected because there must be "something wrong with him" that means he "can't get" sex (assuming men always want sex, and "ought" to be able to persuade women to "give it to them")...
why can't the possibility be admitted that a female virgin might be just as "desperate" to "get laid" as the stereotypical male virgin, and not be "damaged" at all by a first sexual experience consisting of unromantic, no-strings-attached, purely physical sex, or that a male virgin might actually want to "keep" his virginity [the idea of "a virginity" as something like a possession is another weird one imo], or be frightened/disgusted by the idea of sex just as much as the stereotypical female virgin?
This is of course also extremely heterocentric, to the extent that it's almost inconceivable to work out how a gay male or gay female virgin wanting to lose their virginity would be percieved (and indeed, in the latter case, if it would be considered possible for her to "lose her virginity" at all... reminded of Queen Victoria here...)
personally, i think the entire concept of "virginity" is probably a very problematic one, being based around the baseless conceit that what has been referred to on other threads here as "hide-the-penis-in-the-lady" is the only "real" or meaningful form of sex... tho perhaps that's a topic for a broader-in-scope/more theoretical thread...
It is of course also very possible that Tryphena's speculation is true, and this isn't a "real story" at all (tho the discussion points are still valid, i think)...
(apologies for the wanton overuse of scare quotes in this post...) |
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