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Over here, in a hilarious faux misunderstanding, I suggested that Princess Swashbuckling start an SBR thread on anal sex. Then I wondered whether we already had a thread on anal sex, and discovered that we haven't (really).
We've had this, and this, and some other threads where the subject is raised obliquely (here, here and here, for example), but never a thread devoted to it.
Under the banner of the SBR project (ie. that efforts are made to keep it ontopic, low-snark, reasonably serious and not too YKINOK), I thought I'd start one.
In doing this, I'm slightly mindful of something that came up in the SBR policy thread. Namely that people might feel uncomfortable even seeing this title among the 'PG-13 goodness' of the Conversation; that there is something indecent or unseemly about the whole thing.
I think the 'ugliness' of anal sex (touched upon in this thread) could be one of the things we explored here. So, if this is something you do not wish to talk about, or are even a bit nonplussed that I started this, I'd be interested to hear about why.
But I think there's potentially lots of meaty stuff here. I'm interested in whether people like it, for one thing. Ideally, what they like or dislike about it. But then there are other things: How anal sex interacts with sexuality, for example. It seems to me that its association with male homosexuality has declined in recent years (perhaps due to its rise to prominence (dominance even) in mainstream straight porn, but perhaps there's more to it). Or am I mistaken? Is there still a suspicion that a man's interest in anal sex (penetrating or being penetrated) is a manifestation of a suppressed homosexual urge, even if he's fucking a woman? Does it work the other way around? Is there (or has there ever been) an insinuation in gay culture that a lack of interest in it tarnishes one's homo-credentials?
How does it relate to other sexual preference (eg. sub/dom; coprophilia)?
How do attitudes vary from culture to culture?
Is there a political dimension?
So, in the spirit of I'll show you mine if you show me yours, here's some disclosure. The TMI brigade can look away now.
I'm a straight man with a moderate predilection for anal sex, but it's not an essential part of my sex life. What appeals to me about it is (like most sexual preferences) fairly opaque to me and more intuitive than reasoned. I suspect that the transgression of a traditional taboo is part of the appeal; I think it's more psychological and sensational. Rather disappointingly, I don't get much out of being penetrated myself. It's possible that I'm (literally) missing something, but the pleasures of the prostate have eluded me.
I don't thiiink there's a sublimated interest in submission, domination or scat at play here, but maybe I'm not interrogating my dispositions rigorously enough. Perhaps there is an element of one or all of those things.
I can probably say more but I'm out on a limb here, and I'd prefer to wait until other people have opened up a little too (as it were). |
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