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"Welcome to Barbelith. id entity doesn't care if you were joking."

 
  

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ibis the being
18:11 / 30.06.06
All this discussion of what a joke is, and what humor is, is somewhat irrelevant to dubmick's original comment. It wasn't a joke, it was sarcasm, was it not? Given his explanation of the comment, I suspect that if we'd heard dubmick make his comment in person, the irony or sarcasm might have been evident in his tone of voice. Isn't this why we have %% in use to denote a comment as sarcastic?

I think it's actually the "I'm joking" part that throws people (including me) off at first - because it's exactly the kind of thing someone would say when they are not, in fact, joking, but are attempting to make a sincere remark without being held accountable for it. It just comes off really weird, especially in print and with the "don't get mad, I'm nice" happy face emoticon.
 
 
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21:20 / 30.06.06
Actually, the sarcasm was clear to me from the conventional phrase. "And this is good news?" read as sarcastic still left me with the concern that dubmick might have been being sarcastic because he felt that the Pentagon reclassifying homosexuality as not a mental disorder was in fact bad news. (Which is not in and of itself bad, if he did feel that way; the question which follows is "why?") If anything, though, we've got dual sarcasm— dubmick being sarcastic (or at least facetious? satirical? ironic?) about being sarcastic. Is it any wonder I was confused?
 
 
Ganesh
21:24 / 30.06.06
I take all of the points above, but I do sli-i-ightly resent the sentiment implicit in the thread title that my own reactions to individual 'jokes' are subsumed within a larger, more generalised 'Barbelith says' category.
 
 
*
21:31 / 30.06.06
Sorry about that. Thanks for telling me, and you all have my apologies.
 
 
Ganesh
22:11 / 30.06.06
Cool.
 
 
Ganesh
22:22 / 30.06.06
Y'know, I think the new title actually makes this thread more interesting. Thanks, Entity.
 
 
sTe
00:20 / 01.07.06
It seemed like a sarcastic remark (way when back when DubM actually posted it) to me. I thought the fact he added "only joking" was his way on empathizing this, and that "we" 're all being a little over the top on questioning the basic integrity (or whichever word you think suits) of his acceptance of other people based on this remark alone. I've not been a keen purveyor of everything said by all folk involved on other threads for all time, but I personally think that just because someone posts something that in their mind is in a sarcastic or otherwise tone, and we disagree or don't pick up on that is no reason to label someone homophobic or otherwise.
 
 
grant
00:37 / 01.07.06
Y'know, I think the new title actually makes this thread more interesting.

Agreed, definitely.

(Although there's something in me that wants it to take a definite article, so it's "the id entity doesn't care if you were joking." Sort of like being "The Bruce" in Braveheart, only crossed with Forbidden Planet. Just because it would look really ominous in the wiki.)
 
 
feline
07:09 / 01.07.06
Sorry if this is too off-topic, but I think the problem with humour being subjective and therefore potentially offensive / just plain unfunny is still an issue here, beyond that of us all avoiding being racist, sexist, homophobic etc.

For example, there's a running joke amongst some barbelithers about Fondant or French fancies, which I have a hard time not reading as being overly condescending; in some cases (such as on this occasion) I read it as "shut up and get back in your box" - oh, 'but in a humorous way, ho ho'. Is it humour just because it's a running gag? Possibly it's said each time with a wry and compassionate smile and a friendly pat on the back, but I can't see that; this is the internet. (Is there the equivalent of %=sarcasm to mean "I'm not trying to completely trivialise your feelings here, but think you need to calm down"?) And we don't all know everyone else well enough to be able to judge how things are meant to be read judging by previous posts.

I'm not saying cut the fondant fancy jokes; all I'm saying is that a lot of (most of? all?) humour can be subjective, and can be open to being misread.

But Barbelith without humour could be pretty boring (and we've already been told in this thread not to be boring!) So what is the solution?

And then there is the issue of some very dodgy jokes in the jokes thread, that are still there for all to see (like this one for example...) I think we could do without some of these, IMHO...
 
 
ONLY NICE THINGS
08:54 / 01.07.06
I'd be perfectly happy, if there is consensus about it, to delete the most awful jokes in that thread. As for fondant fancies.... hmmm. Short answer probably is that there _is_ a trace of condenscension there, and that you have to decide whether you feel it to be justified personally. Z de Schathath had just embarked on a lengthy tirade which was almost totally unrelated to reality - she's been around long enough to know that people don't get banned for having strops. So, you have to decide whether the reaction is proportionate to the action, and behave accordingly. I fear that there is no "no condescension" rule on Barbelith, and to attempt to enforce such a rule would, I suspect, be unworkable and also lead to more protests than it would ever avert.
 
 
Ganesh
09:19 / 01.07.06
I actually was being condescending there, Lazy Feline, because I felt the situation merited it.
 
 
Less searchable M0rd4nt
09:58 / 01.07.06
Yeah--no offence to Z de Schathath but that was kind of a French Fancy moment. A long post telling everybody how shit they are, how they're just looking for a fight, how they're spitefully tearing other people down ect, topped off with "and you'll probably BAN me now"? Apart from anything else this is the hand-wringingest board I've ever seen with regard to banning people, as someone who's been here for 3 years surely knows.
 
 
alas
13:18 / 01.07.06
I hadn't read the jokes thread lately. The linked jokes are, well, pretty carefully chosen, it would seem to be "shocking" particularly to barbelith sensibilities (ref. the final line "who wants me dead now?"). It feels like a post that was deliberately baiting us...and we didn't take the bait at the time ('03), nor did we really respond--the follow up joke is equally adolescent.

As others have suggested, it's not even really that I'm "offended" or "appalled"--those words seem to imply an element of surprise or shock. I think I may have said something on these lines in the feminism 101 thread, so I am sorry if this sounds repetitious but: I'm not "shocked." I am bored.

And, yes, since I am bored, I am annoyed. These situations repeatedly, ad nauseumly put certain of us in a role of being "the rule setter" or "the party pooper." And, as Mordant suggested, and as someone who openly identifies as female, this is very familiar territory. The "cool, rad boyz" make the jokes, and then the other even cooler rad boyz say something along the lines of "oh, I just try to assume the best of people and if it really wasn't mal-intentioned, if he really had no homophobic intent, then what's the harm? I, personally, let it slide." How cool you get to be!

Then, voila, ho-hum, it's just those whiney gayz, those bitchy womyn, its those angry feminists, its those overly-sensitive black people, its those....people who pay the consequences for the real world situation in which this joke makes any sense as "shocking" who are going to feel their reaction even more intensified.

Do you see, that, as a result, not only am I probably humorless and not fun at parties, I'm also not generous. I'm the one, actually, who has a problem stretching to accommodate the harmless quirks of others.

So, just using the examples of the linked joke thread: not only is there quite a bit of evidence that Iraqis have had to accommodate to American aggression, women to male agression, child sexual abuse survivors to adult aggression, lesbians to antigay aggression, but the humor of the jokes depend upon those realities. Those realities are not nearly so "subjective" as some on this thread, or as ShadowSax, have suggested. Who is having to be "generous" more often, here?

So, if we who are not "cool guys" alert you to our uncool status simply by saying anything about the joke being FUCKING BORING AND PREDICTABLE we are put into a position of donning the "expected" role of unhumorous uncool rule setter: and we find we have to try to prove that we in fact have a sense of humor. (Really! I do!) And that we are not hysterical. And to try to stretch that cool category out, which has already implicitly excluded us, and redouble our efforts at "generosity" and calmness of response. Maybe we'll even thank you.

And...as Mordant points out, one way that some of us do some of those things, some of the time, almost inevitably, is to let it slide, laugh along, and finally maybe even join on in. Reinforcing the hegemonic notion of the cool, and the situation that authorizes the humor in the joke, even if it's being told in a context where there's an implicit understanding that 'of course we can actually tell this joke because we are more enlightened than your average joe, we are in fact superior to regular people, and we all know that homophobia is bad...'.

In fact, I think, arguably, that makes it kind of worse because it's that familiar tactic of othering in order to create a kind of group solidarity around the notion of the "ubercool."
 
 
foolish fat finger
22:00 / 01.07.06
as far as I can see, the jokes (in the 'homosexuality is not a disease' thread) were poking fun at the kind of people who do see being gay as a disease. I think that's healthy. I found the jokes amusing- not hilarious, but then I don't think that was the intention.

besides, if you are gay, and you love being gay, what does it matter if someone else is troubled by that? isn't that their problem? I would tend to think it is...
 
 
Sniv
22:34 / 01.07.06


What would the fonz do?
 
 
ONLY NICE THINGS
22:57 / 01.07.06

besides, if you are gay, and you love being gay, what does it matter if someone else is troubled by that? isn't that their problem? I would tend to think it is...


Yeah, I didn't think you were gay.
 
 
ibis the being
22:00 / 02.07.06
Actually, the sarcasm was clear to me from the conventional phrase. "And this is good news?" read as sarcastic still left me with the concern that dubmick might have been being sarcastic because he felt that the Pentagon reclassifying homosexuality as not a mental disorder was in fact bad news.

Ah, yes, it was a sort of double-sarcastic remark, wasn't it. I see the confusion... and now my head hurts... bowing out of this one.
 
 
dubmick
22:28 / 02.07.06
Ah, yes, it was a sort of double-sarcastic remark, wasn't it. I see the confusion... and now my head hurts... bowing out of this one.

the only joking bit was purely meant to emphasise my original sarcastic comment...trust me
 
 
ONLY NICE THINGS
22:39 / 02.07.06
Everybody please to read alas' comment above. I know it's quite long, but it is also both pertinent and excellent.
 
 
Mister Six, whom all the girls
15:05 / 03.07.06
So... what is the resolution?

Is anything to be done about... what again? Is the culprit jokes that are not offensive but boring? Is anybody offended? Is the new 'offended' 'bored' or is it 'annoyed?'

Also, who is this 'we' I hear so much about?
 
 
ONLY NICE THINGS
15:22 / 03.07.06
I suggest you read alas' comment above, Six. It is a very cogent and intelligent encapsulation of the issues, and if everyone looks at it and thinks about it, we are unlikely to have the same issues occurring. You might also want to look at my response to your first post, if you haven't already. Entity also replies to you. There is quite a lengthy discussion about the weight of the term "we", involving trampetunia, id entity and Ganesh primarily. Mordant Carnival and Xk also have very useful things to say about issues around this topic.

In terms of "what is to be done" - well, I can't speak for id entity, but I'm not sure that the intention was to do anything specific, rather than to raise awareness of the dangers of excusing behaviour on the grounds of humour. I think that's been done itself at some length and with some interesting offshoots.
 
 
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15:25 / 03.07.06
No, Six, it is still possible to be offended, so I wouldn't say that "bored" was the new "offended." You may have missed the point that no one is saying people shouldn't be allowed to make these particular jokes, or that they should be banned for making them. That would be a possible distinction between being "bored" and being "offended." There is no "new 'offended'" because the old one still works fine.

The "resolution," as far as I am concerned, is that people are asked to think more about what kind of jokes they make. Also, I am resolved to ask people to explain jokes directly if I feel the need to do so, and not to speak for Barbelith.

Since this isn't Policy— and if I thought something needed to be "done" about this, it would be in Policy— can we not have a thought-provoking conversation without necessarily having to end in a list of proposed action steps? Is that okay in Conversation?

(Note: It is possible to read some condescension in my tone. It is also possible for me to read some in yours.)
 
 
alas
16:17 / 03.07.06
I watched The Aristocrats last night--the movie about a joke that has long circulated amongst comedians that has the goal of being as offensive, as foul as possible--I won't spoil the movie for you, I promise--I won't even tell the joke, although it's simple.

I'll just say it's one of those long jokes where part of the joke is the anti-climax of the punchline: the goal is to make this unfunny joke funny and dangerous and clever somehow by working one's own schtick into and around it.

You, dear barbelith reader, might think, & with reason, that I would have simply been appalled, or perhaps you'd suspect 'bored'?, and walked off. Au contraire. I admittedly wouldn't have wished the film to be any longer than it is, but I was quite interested, especially given what I'd recently argued here. And sometimes I thought it was quite funny and there were some kind of amazing uses of the joke in the film--Sarah Silverman's version of it was... arresting and intense, and George Carlin tells it like nobody's business.

A few others I found didn't "work"--there was a ventriloquist making the joke via his dummy in pretty much exclusively misogynist terms, and a white comedienne making the joke on almost exclusively racist terms, at least from the excerpts we saw. My analysis of the difference is that these two tellings seemed the least "vulnerable": the tellers somehow didn't engage themselves at all in the absurd horror of the joke but smirked above it. When that happened, I just felt kind of cold inside. But that was not how I felt when many of the other jokers told it.

So I got to thinking: did I miss something in my analysis? I think I did.

But It's also important to note that Chris Rock said this joke didn't have the kind of traction in black comedian circles, where they were performing before basically black audiences, because there wasn't a sense that you could be kept off from, say, TV, or important venues serving mainstream audiences.

This joke works because it can't simply be told in mainstream venues. And the tellers are all intensely aware of that--and they are using it to create bonds between themselves as comedians as people with a role apart from that mainstream. And it's clear that it had a history of being used as an implicit white, male, bonding ritual--it has misogynist roots. So far, that pretty much confirms my view. But it's current status does seem more complex than that. And 'overtly' misogynist stuff--which I can most easily discuss (as opposed to the racism)--didn't always strike me as misogynist in effect in all tellings of the joke.

I got to thinking that some of these professional comedians, but not all of them, were able to work kind of like BDSM pros--to take the willing members of the audience, at some personal risk, into a space that is consciously "dangerous" that doesn't just exploit the boundary crossing but respects it. (I'm a little murky here, but I think the "respect" comes from making overt their own vulnerability to the audience or to the situation being described) and then makes.. something mysterious happen.

This is where the subjectivity seems to lie. I am beginning to think there is the possibility of somehow using the border-crossing power of foul humor in some healing way, as BDSM can be, but I don't think it can happen without some overt display of vulnerability, some opening of the joketeller to some genuine risk.

[People who know the BDSM scene better than I should especially feel free to critique this analogy as bollocks...it's a hypothesis that came to me last night, and might be way off.]

I'm still for gathering around the flag of not wanting barbelith to be "samey" (as grant once put it.) And I don't think the linked jokes, in particular, have any possibility of doing anything interesting. The writer has not made himself [oh I suppose I should use a neutral pronoun...but I've got a very strong but possibly wrong hunch about this one so I'm going to let it stand] vulnerable in any meaningful way, but desperately seems to want to see himself as some radical (but with a girlfriend! Note! And He Just Broke Up With Her!) But he does so using the easiest means available with no skill or consciousness that I can see, no vulnerability.

I confess that I don't know what one should do with them, because they strike me, in context, simply antics of an adolescent boy. But as a result, their content then does stand baldly as pure exploitation of the status quo as an ego-propping escapade of someone who seems to feel untouched by the inequalities he's describing. Unskillful, unfunny.

Bad, unskillful, unrespectful BDSM can enter the realm of the unethical and the illegal. Bad "risky" comedy goes...where, precisely? Into the realm of ... not just the boring, as I take it Mister Six is challenging me on. You're probably right.

I have claimed--but I do not proclaim for all of us as some sort of edict, as Mister Six does seem to think I imply--that it puts at least some portion of us into a predictable cycle that traps some and seems to free others up for social bonding. And we have the implicit claim that it then reinforces hegemonic norms rather than destabilizing anything.

I am not making a case for deletion at this point--nor rejecting it. I'd rather do something more creative, if that's possible, but I'm not sure what that is.
 
 
STOATIE LIEKS CHOCOLATE MILK
16:34 / 03.07.06
That's a pretty good way of looking at it (and I STILL haven't seen that movie...)

"Risky" comedy should require risk, or at least vulnerability, on the part of both comedian and audience (other than the risk of getting your head kicked in by the use of just plain bad or offensive comedy, obviously)... that's a neat idea about which I shall have to think further.
 
 
Mister Six, whom all the girls
16:58 / 03.07.06
I'm really sorry for the long post here but I'm trying to be concise.

Haus: Thanks for the pointers. I did catch those responses and posts. I'm unclear on the meaning in your reply that one does not have to be offended by a statement to pick up on it because I'm not sure what you mean by 'pick up on.' And if the joke is not offensive... what's the point in discussing it? Aren't the options on what a joke can be somewhat limited to funny/unfunny (I'll put offensive in the unfunny category). Are we discussing the technique and value of a joke as well as it's offensive power/harmful intent?

Also the word-fu of your 'lifestyle' statement has me completely befuddled as well. I'm going to assume you had meant it was a bad word choice on my part, which I agree with you on.

id: I'm not condescending if you're not. Thanks for the response. It does seem that there is talk of deleting posts (not from you in particular) which is Policy-like, but I can see your intent being to shed light on people to think more about their jokes. I'm just trying to get a clear idea of where the threads as a whole is going.

Alas: Your post also cites 'others' and uses the 'we' and 'you' terms a few times. Who are these people?

I'm confused as to how cool became uncool by the end of your initial post upthread that Haus is praising.

Correct me if I'm wrong but you seem to be saying that accepting jokes that are, for want of a better term, 'off-color,' is re-inforcing the negativity that spawned regardless of the joke teller's sensibilities. If that's what you're saying, I agree with you, for what it's worth. But is this the 'cool' attitude that you're talking about? Or is it already 'uncool?'

I'm getting this from where you write that 'we' can: let it slide, laugh along, and finally maybe even join on in. Reinforcing the hegemonic notion of the cool, and the situation that authorizes the humor in the joke, even if it's being told in a context where there's an implicit understanding that 'of course we can actually tell this joke because we are more enlightened than your average joe, we are in fact superior to regular people, and we all know that homophobia is bad...'.

In fact, I think, arguably, that makes it kind of worse because it's that familiar tactic of othering in order to create a kind of group solidarity around the notion of the "ubercool."


So my questions are:

What response to a joke that you find offensive do you leave?

I thought part of the problem/point here was in establishing that the 'I'm just joking' response was a cop-out and not valid yet you seem to be building a case for it to be valid. Did I misread that?

Why is it not necessary for the joke to be offensive and if so, what would you call that kind of joke?

On the Aristocrats... Can you pick a joke that proves your point? It would make things clearer and easier for me if you would. Not giving an example of the type of humor you're citing makes your point less clear the more you run with it.

The notion of taking the worst possible type of offensive joke and telling it when you (the joke teller) feel the polar opposite has always struck me as defusing the negative sentiment. A lot of these jokes make me personally feel 'icky' but I understand/respect the intent.

I know you want to make a point and appreciate the time you're taking to make it... If it's just me who's confused please PM me instead. I'd appreciate that as well.

Ta.
 
 
STOATIE LIEKS CHOCOLATE MILK
17:52 / 03.07.06
Not giving an example of the type of humor you're citing makes your point less clear the more you run with it.

Not wishing to speak for alas, but the whole Aristocrats thing is that it's always the same joke- it has a mild and inoffensive beginning, and a rubbish and inoffensive punchline- the joke is different whoever tells it because it is the middle section that the individual comedians make up, as I understand it. It's one of those occasions, I think, where the punchline is there as a release valve, like the shock after the spooky buildup in a horror movie, rather than as any kind of explication.
 
 
Quantum
18:14 / 03.07.06
I want the screen name Quantum, notion of the "ubercool."
 
 
ONLY NICE THINGS
18:35 / 03.07.06

Haus: Thanks for the pointers. I did catch those responses and posts. I'm unclear on the meaning in your reply that one does not have to be offended by a statement to pick up on it because I'm not sure what you mean by 'pick up on.'

Pick up on may be British-specific slang - it means "draw attention to". To pick somebody up on something, which I think is the usage I employed, means to draw somebody's attention to something they have done.

And if the joke is not offensive... what's the point in discussing it?

I don't think I used the term "offensive"... hold on. Nope, I didn't. What I said was that I didn't think it was necessary to be offended, or to state that one was offended, to pick up on something. Offensive is a quality of the joke, offended is what someone is. Your solution presupposed that you only got to question people if you, personally, were offended. That seems unnecessarily restrictive. Again, see alas' post, in which a number of alternative possible reactions and qualities are explored.

Aren't the options on what a joke can be somewhat limited to funny/unfunny (I'll put offensive in the unfunny category).

No, I don't think they are, and, since I don't think they are, I don't think that one has to put every other characteristic of a joke in either the funny or unfunny box.

Are we discussing the technique and value of a joke as well as it's offensive power/harmful intent?

Well, we certainly can. In fact, I think alas did, at some length, in her post about the Aristocrats, which I'll leave her to discuss.

Also the word-fu of your 'lifestyle' statement has me completely befuddled as well. I'm going to assume you had meant it was a bad word choice on my part, which I agree with you on.

It's pretty simple. The term "lifestyle choice" is used by people who want to argue that being attracted to the same sex is a lifestyle choice rather than something inherent and natural - that is, that it is a conscious decision, and one that can be reversed, usually with the power of prayer. Being gay is not a lifestyle choice, it's a sexuality: one can be attracted to people of the same sex while enjoying any one of a near-limitless number of different lifestyles.
 
 
foolish fat finger
18:47 / 03.07.06
I am interested in member’s feelings about this. It seems a good place to post it.

A comedian I really like, Stewart Lee, wrote the words to ‘Jerry Springer- the Opera’, which was boycotted by many Christian groups, and was forced to close in many places, or could not be shown, due to pressure from Christian pickets/ threats of loss of sponsorship. I believe Lee was also subject to death threats. (from Christians- that’s nice isn’t it?!) (guardian article by Lee)

His response was to write a stage show, where he deliberately chose the most vile, worthless image he could think of, which turned out to be himself ejaculating into the backside of Jesus. His aim was then in his words 'to somehow find redemption, or meaning, in this meaningless, vile idea.'

I didn’t see the show. Myself, I don’t identify as Christian, but I do revere Jesus, who I see as a prophet and a Holy man. The idea that Stewart Lee came up with does come close to something I would find pretty offensive in comedy. However, the show interests me, as I would have liked to have seen his process in finding some meaning in the image.

I just wondered what others thought of this, or their own ideas of comedy that is just unacceptable by their standards.

By the way, Stewart Lee’s latest stage-show ‘I felched Mohammed’* has just been cancelled due to his untimely death…

*not that Mohammed, obviously. Mohammed Al Fayed. Phew, fatwa alert over…
 
 
alas
18:58 / 03.07.06
Mister 6: Thanks for your questions. I'm sorry, by the way, if I seemed to use you as a negative example by implication--I probably could have handled that more skillfully.

I think Haus has elaborated pretty clearly, above, who I meant when I use "we." I accept that "we" is a potentially problematic pronoun in almost all circumstances, but I do believe I qualified it pretty carefully. However, & nevertheless, it probably is wise to say, of course not all people who might externally "seem" to fit the "we" of my statement actually do. My point was more that once someone makes clear they don't find a joke funny and they do find it sexist (or whatever), that person is likely to be seen as a spoilsport (and they are seen as often fitting an already existing category like "bitchy feminazi") by those who want to engage in the social bonding opportunity created by the joke for those who laugh. I feel solidarity with people who find themselves in this situation, as Mordant did, and as I know others to have done.

I am pretty sure that "cool" doesn't become "uncool" in my post: the people who are not laughing are uncool; the people who are, are cool. That remains constant in my first posting, I think.

What response to a joke that you find offensive do you leave?

Is there a word missing here? I can't make any sense of this sentence. Help?

I thought part of the problem/point here was in establishing that the 'I'm just joking' response was a cop-out and not valid yet you seem to be building a case for it to be valid. Did I misread that?

Do you mean in my first or second post? In my first post I am saying: pretty much it's always a cop out and one that masks the social function of jokes--reinforcing a kind of in-group and broader hegemonic social norms. In my second, I'm complicating that notion--I'm not sure how successfully--by suggesting there's more room for nuance than I initially allowed. I think the vulnerability of the persons making the joke is key for me.

Why is it not necessary for the joke to be offensive and if so, what would you call that kind of joke?

I, speaking personally (as I pretty carefully did about this term--I don't think I stated or implied that anyone else has to use my terms bored or annoyed)--I just don't like the word "offensive." Let's see if I can unpack my thoughts. I think there's a couple of things. First, I think of that old quote often attributed to Eleanor Roosevelt: "No one can make you feel inferior without your permission." Substitute "offended." Saying "I am offended" does open the way to limiting & focusing the analysis that follows to one's own, interior, personal reaction. It's like I'm blaming you for my feelings.

This makes it harder to see the systemic structures at work, which are the problem. It potentially gets us focused on making me "feel better." The joke teller can also pretty readily get let off the hook: "I haven't crossed any real or ethical boundaries, I've just hurt some individual's feelings." And, voila, the boundary either disappears ("sexism doesn't really exist anymore") or is, at best, trivialized ("really strong women aren't bothered by this; it's the pathetic weak ones; maybe they just need to toughen up; it's a hard world"). And then it's pretty tempting for a joketeller to follow that up with, at best, pity for the poor soul who isn't strong enough to let this stuff slide, & not the respect one might feel for those "unoffended."

That territory is a mess of entangled power relations, to me. Bleh. Don't want to go there, if I can avoid it, because it seems to distract from what I want changed: I don't really don't want to spend my time and energy punishing (and/or paradoxically rewarding) the teller. I don't even want those listening to the joke to try to assuage my feelings as "victim." I don't want to be "victim," and let the joketeller be "all powerful offender" and someone else "all powerful rescuer."

I want to change the structure. AND have fun. Less sameyness.

"Offended" also implies, as I noted above, "shock." Like "oooh. What a surprising horrible thing! I never thought of such a thing! I'm offended!" I knew a local comic act years ago, who I think stole the line "we're equal opportunity offenders!" from some other comedy group. Because "offense" is personal and a not entirely out of one's control response, it can readily be converted into a badge of honor.

And that all ads up to a way, again of putting the joke teller into a position of no vulnerability. Which is exactly what I'm trying to avoid. Speaking for myself.

Oh, and on that note, by the way, Dubmick, I have been meaning to say, has made hirself vulnerable by coming back here and talking about it. Letting yourself be "a student" is one way of being vulnerable, and ze's shown hirself to be able to place hirself in that role. That's not easy.

I sense you doing that more, now than in the penultimate one, Mister Six, and I appreciate it too. And if I weren't so annoyed on my first post, I maybe could have also paid more attention to the qualifiers of your first post. That was, as I said, less than wholly skillful.

I hope I'm making it clear that I'm willing to stand corrected. I do not feel invulnerable, here. I do still stand by most of what I've said, at this point.

On the Aristocrats... Can you pick a joke that proves your point? It would make things clearer and easier for me if you would. Not giving an example of the type of humor you're citing makes your point less clear the more you run with it.

I'll try. Sorry it was confusing to you.

[The following paragraphs, might be, I suppose, possibly construed as a small spoiler, Stoatie and others who haven't seen it, but I don't think my verbal rendering could really ruin seeing the thing in person]:

Sarah Silverman tells the aristocrats joke with herself as an abused child--a child being sexually molested by her family and by a specifically named, male agent who we'd seen earlier on the show (and his extraordinarily chaotic, tiny closet of an office, where the sexual molestation of the joke is set). In the joke, Silverman's character is presented as not really fully aware of what happened to her, but it is gradually dawning on her as she tells the story, just milliseconds after it's becoming clear to the audience that she's telling us that this agent abused her in his office.

It's risky. I think it works because she's very vulnerable, as a live performer, first off (which, in my current theory of vulnerability, gives almost any live-told joke a little more leeway than one splatted up on-line and readily raced away from), and the audience is placed in the position of both laughing and yet really being kind of horrified--she is both powerful over the named male agent, who she is, however, jokingly/libelously calling a pedophile and rapist! She's vulnerable to him, he's vulnerable to her, and we're vulnerable to wanting to laugh and yet also completely in her power--she's taken us to this place by acting like she's totally out of control. She's timed it perfectly so that we seem to be more aware than she is by a few milliseconds, and yet, it's her awareness that has led us on!

By contrast, in many versions of the aristocrats joke, particularly versions told by male comics, there's a dad character (in Carlin's and others, however, he really comes across differently) who is primarily sexually violating all others and often not really being violated himself. No one is fucking him in the ass or the eyeball or fisting his throat. This version of the joke didn't work for me. And in particular when the ventriloquist in the film told his version of it--he has the joke being told by his dummy, who just goes on and on in this misogynist vein, and further distances the ventriloquist from being really vulnerable in the joke. So it fell flat to me.

We don't go anywhere complicated in the latter joke; with Silverman, we did. Is it possible, I'm asking in post 2, that the complex place she takes us is a kind of healing place? I don't know, for sure. That may be too much for a joke to carry.
 
 
foolish fat finger
19:31 / 03.07.06
I hope you don't mind alas- I thought I'd direct people to a brief review which explains the basic joke, and a couple of variations...
review- The Aristocrats
 
 
ONLY NICE THINGS
21:04 / 03.07.06
fff: Interesting question on the Jesus. If I may, I think it would be useful to go back to something you said earlier:

besides, if you are gay, and you love being gay, what does it matter if someone else is troubled by that? isn't that their problem? I would tend to think it is...

I linked you then to Deva trying to explain why it's an awful lot easier to expect people on the receiving end of things to rise above it than to be that person, which I hope you read, because it's a very interesting post. Alas rather neatly dovetails this by talking about the way that being "offended", being "troubled", makes you the problem.

Small story. A dear friend of mine recently had dinner with an ex-partner. Afterwards, she asked me to reassure her that she was not mad, and that there was yet a need for feminism, the civil rights movement, and so on. Her date, who believed entirely in equality, had been espousing the viewpoint that if only people would stop protesting, then everythng would be fine - that is, he did not see any of the causes of protest, so he assumed that the protests were the problem in and of themselves.

Tying that together - the reason why someone might not understand why somebody who was gay and liked themselves could possibly not be happy with somebody not liking them is perhaps comparable, in a sense - they haven't taken on board what alas calls the systemic structures. Paranoidwriter, in the thread I linked to, had the luxury of having a nice, polite conversation with somebody who wanted to kill the gays because he wasn't gay. Deva had no such luxury.

Now, back to Jerry Springer. The Christians protesting about Jerry Springer: the Opera are not doing so just for fun, at least in most cases. They are doing so because they believe that Jerry Springer: the Opera is a threat to their way of life and their freedom to practice their own morality. They're wrong, and in most cases they are also mad, but their reaction is, ultimately, coming from the fear of annihilation. Personally, I'd be more afraid of a culture in which I get kicked senseless for kissing my partner than one in which somewhere in the West End Jesus is admitting to being a little bit gay, but then I'm a pretty well-adjusted person.

So, anyway. Back to you and Jesus. You've got a degree of investment in Jesus, but I have a feeling that you may have a greater degree of investment in Stewart Lee. At least, you're stable enough to see that Stewart Lee doing a routine about anal sex with Jesus is not a threat to your relationship with Jesus or your way of life.

On that - actually, it seems to me that Stewart Lee doing a routine about sex with Jesus is, again, primarily just boring. He isn't going to be appalled by it, and neither are his audience. Example: last time I saw Stewart Lee perform, he did a routine about how William Wallace probably had sex with a four-year-old. After a pause, he then delivered the actual punchline of the gag, which was "I'm a bit surprised that you're all so blasé about that. When I performed it in Edinburgh, it was one of the big audience reactions of the night". Which is a joke on a number of levels - that we're laughing about the idea of a Scottish national hero having sex with a child, that a joke that is outrageous in Scotland is not outrageous in England, and that Edinburgh audiences are not necessarily made up of Scottish _people_, at a slightly more rarefied level. Point being, nobody in that audience at the Soho theatre had anything to gain by being outraged, or anything to defend. Likewise, a Stewart Lee crowd hearing about gay sex with Jesus? Unshocked. Amused. Perhaps the same sort of little transgressive frisson you were going for with the gag about felching Mohammed.

Conveniently, that ties into something that helps to illustrate that point. After the whole kerfuffle about those satirical cartoons of Mohammed, somebody I vaguely knew changed their LiveJournal icon to what I assume was one of those cartoons - in fact, to one of the ones apparently falsified and slipped into the briefing pack for extra outrage.

Annnyway - the point was, that struck me at the time as one of the most craven uses of free speech I'd ever encountered. By doing this on LiveJournal, he got to filter carefully who would see it, and also ensure that he had a peer cheering section around to tell anyone who raised questions that they were being oversensitive, that they were extremists, that they were trying to censor him, and so tediously on. Now, I have a lot more respect for Stewart Lee and his thoughtfulness than I do for this fellow, but I can see the same process in his audience - people who, essentially, have no reason to find this a difficult image.
 
 
foolish fat finger
21:46 / 03.07.06
Haus, thanks for your post. Let me organise my thoughts…

I actually have a greater investment in Jesus, who I consider a prophet, than Stewart Lee. But I do like Lee a lot, and I find him an interesting and intelligent person, as well as extremely funny.

You are correct to say that the problem is in me. Why am I troubled by Lee’s theoretical debasement of a person I revere? I don’t know. I own it as being in myself, but I don’t know. (For me, that is very useful, and what I will contemplate from this discussion so far)

By the way, I did read Deva’s post.

For me, Stewart Lee doing a routine, in fact, a whole show about having anal sex with Jesus is not boring. Not because of the fact that it is the biblical Jesus, who (from watching Lee's sketches for many years now) he seems to have issues with, but from the fact that he consciously chose the most repellent idea he could come up with. To me that is interesting, and links in with alas’ posts about the aristocrats; various comedians trying to outdo each other with more and more obscene versions of the same joke. To me it is interesting, as I am interested in boundaries, I guess. But I do take your point that his audiences are probably not going to be shocked or offended, and therefore to most of them it is not going to provoke them same reaction.

Can I ask you, also, as a Welshman, were you offended by Ann Robinson’s ‘humourous’ comments about the Welsh on ‘room 101’ (and thereafter widely reported)? Just curious. Myself, I hate all that ‘sheepshagger’ crap; in my opinion the Welsh are a fine race of people, and the ‘acceptable’ racism against them from, I would say, mainly London-based media folk, for some reason really annoys me.

I am not entirely sure what your overall point is in your post- it would help me if you could summarise it in one sentence…
 
 
ONLY NICE THINGS
22:32 / 03.07.06
If I could summarise it in one sentence, I wouldn't have written as much, believe me. Hang on...

(Takes deep breath)

People tend to react strongly to things - statements, ideas, actions - that they see as threatening to their safety - physical or ideological. People who are not so threatened, or do not perceive the threat, will have difficulty making sense of that reaction, and in the absence of a clear logic will ascribe the reaction to emotional qualities (shock, offence) within the person reacting rather than to the threat represented by a particular manifestation of a (to use alas' term) structure.

So, I don't think I did say that the problem was "in you", exactly - more that there are things outside you that you will not necessarily be as attuned to as others.

Also of interest - I don't think that anal sex with Jesus _is_ the most repellent thing he can imagine. It's certainly not the most repellent thing I can imagine, even offhand. I'd like to look at his actual phrasing, but it sounds to me more like a thing that would cause the greatest possible upset to a specific group of people. That's a rather different thing, and plays again with the idea of intended and unintended audience. But that's speculation.

As for Anne Robinson - meh. Speaking personally, I think she's a pantomime ugly sister. There are bigger threats to Wales, most of them social and economic, than her getting some cheap column inches. I don't speak as any representative of Wales or the Welsh there, though, nor do I think either would want me as a spokesman.
 
 
The Falcon
22:38 / 03.07.06
Also of interest - I don't think that anal sex with Jesus _is_ the most repellent thing he can imagine. It's certainly not the most repellent thing I can imagine, even offhand. I'd like to look at his actual phrasing, but it sounds to me more like a thing that would cause the greatest possible upset to a specific group of people. That's a rather different thing, and plays again with the idea of intended and unintended audience. But that's speculation.

Aye. I was going to list some stuff, but this makes several points, far better. It's not even the most repellent thing involving Jesus I can think of offhand, so you might want to think about that, FFF.
 
  

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