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Mid-twenties Crisis

  
  

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Cheap. Easy. Cruel.
18:47 / 29.03.04
I dunno, S, I am 28. I haven't said goodbye to my youth and have begun the business of my life. Really, the turning point for me was around 25. I would not qualify it as a crisis, it was merely a reordering of my priorities. Nothing big and earthshaking, just a gradual orientation in one specific direction.

Although, I did take up skydiving that year.
 
 
ibis the being
19:05 / 29.03.04
The "quarter life crisis" makes for a good joke on your 25th birthday, but really I think it's bunk. If you consider that most people go to college and graduate when they're 22-ish, then forge out into the working/billpaying world usually having little idea what it's all about, it's really no wonder, and no sign of being "screwed up," if there's some fairly large period of adjustment needed in their mid-20's. It's long been my feeling that a college education prolongs adolescence, and adult life doesn't begin until after graduation.

The mid-life crisis is a somewhat weightier (har) matter having to do with realizing your mortality once you're beginning the march downhill.
 
 
Smoothly
19:15 / 29.03.04
Oh, well, I did quit my job. And I have just been kinda aimlessly bumming around for 8 months. But, haha, that's not a crisis, right? Right?
 
 
S
05:10 / 30.03.04
Perhaps I was wrong to pigeon whole the age of 28 as the passing of youth. I think as soon as you start talking about the phases of life you run into the problem that you can't really determine a moment of transition from one phase to the next. I guess what really happens is a slow, gradual change from youth into adulthood. It's like day turning into night, it happens but you can't say at what point day is no longer day.

Naturally, we are all different and will make the transition in our own time. However, I do feel the first half of the twenties is considerably different from the second half of the twenties, in terms of priorities and your general outlook. So when you find yourself in the middle of the twenties, it's understandable this can be a time of confusion - hence the mid-twenties crisis.

I do find that by placing your big life questions within the framework of the phases of life, it does provide some comfort and clarity. The important thing is to understand what each phase of your life is for. Each phase of life has its own purpose in you personal development.

(Writing this stuff is quite theraputic)
 
  

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