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My girlfriend just broke up with me, cheer me up.

Rev. Jesse

03:12 / 21.11.05

Ugh.
This woman I have been seeing (for like 3 months) just broke up with me, says she met someone else. I don't really feel to great about this. Do me a favor and cheer me up a little, won't you?

Full story can be found here

Please help me feel a little less lonely.

Thanks-

-Jesse

Char Aina

03:34 / 21.11.05

i cant really think of much to say that would help, but i do know the pain.
i miss every girl i have ever been with to this day.

it dulls, but it never seems to die.

fuck, i'm not making with the happy, am i?

look!
a hitch hikers guide themed game!
its a bit like wario's minigames!

Char Aina

03:52 / 21.11.05

oh...
is hould warn you that it is addictive as hell, and really frustrating.
i lost just over half an hour of my life when i first found that little fucker.

Mistoffelees

06:59 / 21.11.05

My break up was 2,5 years ago, and I still miss her sometimes.

But it lasted more than three months, so maybe you´ll get over it sooner than me?

Listening to classical music might help. Listen to the major, not the minor music. Some Joseph Haydn perhaps?

Spaniel

09:36 / 21.11.05

Really shit, Jesse. You have my sympathy.

A bit of advice: don't act on any of those crazy impulses you're having - don't ring her and tell her you love her and beg her to come back to you, don't write her any letters, don't keep tabs on her comings and goings, don't... just don't, okay?

There is nothing worse than the horrific pain of rejection combined with feelings of deep, deep shame. I know, I've been there.

It'll take time, but you WILL get through it.

COG

12:34 / 21.11.05

Amen to all of the above. If you feel the urge to do something silly such as call her, just go for a looong walk (without mobile phone).

Do the things that she didn't like you doing - video games, stupid films etc. You know, boy stuff.

Also, think of all the money you'll save. That could pay for a holiday, or the first date with the next girl. The next girl is out there, you just haven't met yet.

Smoothly

12:39 / 21.11.05

I agree with coq. Try to focus on what was shit about the relationship. It's amazing how easy it is to neglect to do that.

Sniv

12:42 / 21.11.05

Take the time, and hang out with your real friends. Girlfriends may come and go, but your mates are there forever.

Or... do something really physical. Play footie, go running, play some music (if you do), get in a fight... afterwards, you'll feel all euphoric and tired, and you won't care any more (at least till you wake up again).

Or... celebrate your singleness. Make a point of not tidying up the house, maybe go online and get some filthy dirty pr0n, sit around in your pants all day. Eat pot noodles.

lord nuneaton savage

12:44 / 21.11.05

I'd say you're off to a good start with The Grateful Dead, matey.

Get some mates around you, go out, have a good time. If you haven't got any money then lean on your mates for drinkies. You're the one who's upset after all. Behave badly but not regrettably. Best of British to you. I had a similar experience myself recently and it sucks, but you'll get there in the end.

Rev. Jesse

13:06 / 21.11.05

Heh, I was listening to the Grateful Dead last night as it happens.

Yeah, I'm trying to avoid ringing her, but mostly I'm just worried about a week of sleeplessness nights. After it happened, I was too wired to be tired and ended up with very little rest.

Thanks folks.

Char Aina

15:06 / 21.11.05

don't act on any of those crazy impulses you're having

unless the crazy impulse is to have rebound sex...
its shallow, but it usually makes me feel better.

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