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Take it back

12:10 / 28.02.02

I've just had a row with my girlfriend and said something I really regret. Fuck. I wish I could take it back. I have this fucking annoying habit of pinpointing what will hurt someone and then saying it. I wish I would think before leaping.

Anyone got a large plank they can hit me over the head with? I deserve it.

pointless and uncalled for

12:16 / 28.02.02

I have two words for you - Spin Control.

As a male in a male:female relationship there are two pieces of information that will ensure the longest possible relationship.

a) There are no arguments that you can actually win.

b) There's nothing that you can't get out of with the right words.

12:17 / 28.02.02

No, you don't.
And I haven't anyway.

Haus about we all give each other a big lovely huggle?

12:19 / 28.02.02

quote:Originally posted by H:
I have two words for you - Spin Control.

As a male in a male:female relationship there are two pieces of information that will ensure the longest possible relationship.

a) There are no arguments that you can actually win.

b) There's nothing that you can't get out of with the right words.

Yeah. Thank fuck that women's universal gullibility is equal to their inflexibility.

pointless and uncalled for

12:22 / 28.02.02

Sorry Haus, was I joking or was it you?

12:25 / 28.02.02

Oh, well done. Let it out into the open.

Can we leave the great unspokens unspoken, coz they have a tendency to end up in More! magazines top ten lists of why blokes are crap/bastards/totally untrustworthy. You'll be telling everyone the real reason why we go to the pub next.

Not that I read such More! magazine or any such organs. Ahem.

13:08 / 28.02.02

To be fair, H, it was a bit difficult to tell if you were taking the piss or not.

There are no verbal or visual cues in online communication; in order to ensure one's point is understood, one has to be clear and more precise in one's wording than one might be in real-life conversation.

{edited due to my return from the aforementioned errand. Ah, the joys of posting from work...

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[ 28-02-2002: Message edited by: Ierne ]

Haus about we all give each other a big lovely huggle?

13:12 / 28.02.02

On the bright side, the lack of cues also means that faced with a hostile audience one can always claim to be joking...

pointless and uncalled for

13:17 / 28.02.02

On the subject of cues, had I said that IRL I probably would have said it as if I meant it because I would find that funnier.

It's one of those situation where I find it entertaining to have a split of misled and not.

That's my sense of humour, take offence or not, it's up to you.

Jack The Bodiless

13:54 / 28.02.02

The 'Knowledge' defence, laydeez an' gennelmen...

pointless and uncalled for

13:57 / 28.02.02

Thank you.

Edited to add that the defence means that seeing as there is commentary on interpretation and humour I was just telling you what I thought was funny and that I don't expect people to have the same sense of humour that I do.

Also a special thanks to Haus for his subtle comments on wether or not I may be lying about making jokes.

Sorry for rotting this thread, didn't mean to and didn't see it coming which goes to show exactly how stupid I am.

[ 28-02-2002: Message edited by: H ]

The Natural Way

14:04 / 28.02.02

Before this thread gets totally recuperated by the "H, you sound like a bit of a plonker" thing...

Sorry Sauron, old buddy. Play nice.

14:31 / 28.02.02

communication is easy to fuck up. I think everyone hear has demonstrated that perfectly

*hugs* to you and your girl, sauron

15:19 / 28.02.02

Thanks peeps.

pointless and uncalled for

15:29 / 28.02.02

Sorry for being such a fuckwit, I'm sure someone like yourself will be able to sort things out.

*note to self, use brain more often*

15:38 / 28.02.02

Hardly a fuckwit- don't sweat it - I knew you were joking.

I'll hopefully sort it, but I jsut feel like a twart.

gozer the destructor

06:55 / 01.03.02

If a man stands alone in the forest, and there are no women around to hear him speak, is he still wrong?

12:56 / 01.03.02

Yes, but so far he's got away with it.

Fengs for the Memory

13:32 / 01.03.02

Thats exactly what they want us to think then -BAM, you have a direct debit to cadbury's.

Regrettable Juvenilia

13:42 / 01.03.02

I'm sorry, WTF? Cadbury's?

13:45 / 01.03.02

I think he's refering to apology devices- chocolate, flowers, jewelry etc.

mr insensitive

09:09 / 02.03.02

How is the little lady anyway?

10:45 / 02.03.02

Uh, ugh. I want to go on record as saying that I am a woman who is NOT a big chocolate fan. How about a tube of cheese pringles instead?

There is actually a gentleman on my course at the moment who refused chocolate on the grounds that "Only girls like chocolate." Yes, I did want to smack him but I refrained, and that is actually just the tip of the misogynist iceberg with him. I did, however, when said lad was telling me how he had to retrain (yes, retrain) "uppity women" (like myself, being an uppity city gal and all), when he was telling me how we really did like women, managed to get in, "Except for the bitches, right?"

But I digress.

Anyway, of course you can "win" an argument with your amour, but isn't actually the point of a relationship more about working together than somebody being right or wrong?

Sauron, guy, don't sweat it. Everybody makes mistakes sometimes. Lord knows I've said the wrong thing on literally millions of occasions. I think you should just apologize and admit you were wrong, and if your sweetie cares about you she'll forgive you.