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eeoam
13:02 / 10.02.05
Hi there - things are have been going from bad to worse in my life and right now i'm at my wits end. I just can't see a way out. Well, i can see one way out, but it would cause devastation to those left behind. So I guess I'm asking if anyone has any good magical mojo to spare, please send it my way, as I'd really appreciate it.
 
 
Less searchable M0rd4nt
13:23 / 10.02.05
Oh, how horrible. Without knowing the specifics, I can't be very... well, specific. One thing that I can recommend is this: Ask for help.

Say "I need help!" Right now. Just say it, out loud. "I NEED HELP!"

I've been doing this for about 6 months now and it's always worked. Either a solution has presented itself or I've had an access of strength and energy which has been enough to get me through.

Are you at immediate risk of self-harm? Can you arrange to be with somebody during this difficult time?
 
 
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14:05 / 10.02.05
Try walking outside for fresh air, concentrating on deep clear breathing (pranayama if you know any) for about half an hour to an hour a day (anywhere you are you can do this, walking around, at work, sat at home etc) and of course, meditating, even for 5 minutes at a time whenever you can.

Whatever your situation is I hope things get better for you. Maybe calling on a healing God/Goddess will help do the trick aswell.
 
 
Gypsy Lantern
14:18 / 10.02.05
Without any details whatsoever, there's not really much anyone can do for you, apart from "think nice thoughts" in the direction of a completely anonymous person on a message board. Which, to be honest, I think will be about as much practical use to you as a fingerpainting of a lovely kitten might be to somebody getting kicked to death by scurvy pirates.

I think anonymous desperate calls for "good vibes" and "spare magical mojo" are pretty much a complete waste of time. I really think that doing magical work for someone requires consultation, diagnosis, communication, intuition, a solid understanding of the situation at hand and its intricacies, and if possible, full cooperation of the person asking for the work to be done, and crucially, good strong links (hair, nails, clothes, etc...) to anyone involved who needs to be influenced.

I think it's a big deal, taking on a professional client, and not to be entered into lightly by either party. So I have trouble squaring my experiences of this with the school of thought that has people asking complete strangers on the internet for "good vibes", apparently working from the assumption that magic operates like some special lucky fluid that can be directed towards internet login names on command.

Apologies if I come across a bit harsh, or like I'm having a go at you when you're in a vulnerable position, but I think this is pertinant and should be addressed before the thread just fills up with well-meaning folks offering to masturbate for you. Which might make them feel all belevolent for five minutes, but will probably do very little to actually engage with your situation, whatever it may be.

If you do want someone to do some specific targetted work to help you, then PM me and we can have a chat about possible options.
 
 
rising and revolving
16:50 / 10.02.05
Gypsy, you oughta check out the Reiki newsgroups sometime. Calling for aid is the rule there, rather than the exception.

Mind you, Reiki *specifically* has a distance operation component, but even so.

Good luck eeoam.
 
 
Aertho
19:10 / 10.02.05
In my head, I picture Mordant and Gypsy as Flora and Fauna from Disney's Sleeping Beauty. You guys can decide which is which. Keep up the good work ladies.
 
 
Darkmatter
20:29 / 10.02.05
I suggest annoying people on forums, it always helps me. If that doesnt work try chanting your name exactly 99 times in front of a mirror with your hand above you hand, then tell yourself your the grates person alive. It'll give you a boot
 
 
ghadis
22:51 / 10.02.05
Sorry you're having a shit time of it. Any action that you take you should really take that apart and examine it and really think about it.


Also things that seem like the shitist darkest crapest most rubbish thing and time in your life often turn into the things you laugh and joke about a year or 2 later.
 
 
Gypsy Lantern
07:55 / 11.02.05
Keep up the good work ladies.

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Z. deScathach
19:15 / 11.02.05
Just keep saying this: "I'll see how tomorrow goes......". Eventually, you'll stop saying it, and realize that the awful situation that seemed so huge before has passed. Also, call in your markers, i.e., now is a good time to let your friends help you.
 
 
Charlie's Horse
23:13 / 11.02.05
I hope things will start to look up for you soon, eeoam. If you want to PM me some details so I could do something specific for you, feel free to do so. I'll do everything I can.
 
 
Salamander
18:57 / 12.02.05
Try lying on the ground and let your stress drain out of you like water. This ought to help you think more clearly, and so a solution may present itself. Another good one is pick a day where you have absolutely nothing to do that day or the next, get rip roaring drunk, and just cry your heart out. The emotional catharsis alone will give you a new perspective.
 
 
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23:04 / 12.02.05
make friends with your problems/emotions. let them become a part of you as much as anything else, don't try to hide them in the closet. spend time alone with these thoughts, give them a chance to speak and listen to their whole story. let yourself get as sad and upset as possible (don't know if getting drunk helps). cry and pull the covers over your head or go outside and break stuff if you feel the need to be violent, throw rocks or kick something inanimate and unimportant. if you want use magick i think you will intuitively know when to do it, it can be natural and unplanned, drop yourself into a calm after the fury of emotions. or when you are exhausted or sick of being sad, just go to sleep or do something else.

then you can look back and see the worst of it and realize that where you are now is not nearly as bad as where you were then. emotions have natural highs and lows, there is no light without darkness, the opposites define eachother. learn to recognize where you are on the wave, and if it happens that you start to feel shitty about everything, perhaps it's best to accelerate the process and get it over with. then, if necessary, approch the problems with a fresh perspective and confidence that says "if i got through that then i will get through this." over time and looking in the past you see the ups and downs, and you have a mental catalogue of how you dealt with things and knowing that you will get through it.

depending on the nature of the problem, the process may take months or minutes. it may be that you get upset everyday for a long time, but even then you can see daily fluctuations within the long term cycle. but you can't be sad all the time, and when you can say "been there, done that," you will be strong enough to not let it consume you. everyone has problems, you are not alone. the difference is how you choose to deal with them, and this is where you have complete control.
 
 
Yagg
07:35 / 13.02.05
Love. Just nothing but Love. Laugh at that, if you want, but there it is.
 
  
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