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Co-dependent dressing

 
 
Ganesh
23:29 / 14.12.04
To what extent does your partner determine what you wear?

In years past, I would've tutted and muttered, "not at all" - because, in our partnership, it's always been me telling Xoc what does and doesn't look good. There've been a few fashion mistakes along the way (he was probably right to reject that mid-to-late '90s tangerine v-neck jumper) but, generally speaking, I think I've taught him useful stuff. Main thing being, how to make shop assistants work for you, the importance of trying things on, venturing out of black and into colour, at least now and again.

I'd like to think he doesn't influence me at all, but he does. If he says, "those boots make you walk like Barbara Windsor" or "that looks shite", I won't abandon said clothing altogether, but I will take stock. After a brutal reality check, I'll either reintroduce the garment in question - cautiously, defensively - or consign it to the neverworn (copyright Neil Gaiman 2004) depths at the back of the wardrobe.

To what extent is your clothing influenced by the opinions of others?
 
 
modern maenad
16:43 / 16.12.04
My bloke and I have very differenet taste whent it comes to clothes/shoes/hairstyles etc., and I've often thought it would be great to go shopping together and both agree to be dressed/styled by the other, and then spend the entire day and evening in said outfits. If it weren't for the whole ethical (sweatshops) and financial (broke) considerations, I'd definitely do it - I imagine it would (a) be a right laugh and (b) be a bit of an education, being made to walk round looking so totally alien to yourself......
 
 
Benny the Ball
19:26 / 16.12.04
An ex of mine would constantly critique my clothing, but in a really bitchy way. If anything it made me want to wear what ever she didn't like more, and made me dislike her.
 
 
Liger Null
15:57 / 20.12.04
If it weren't for the whole ethical (sweatshops) and financial (broke) considerations, I'd definitely do it -

You could go to thrift shops, depending, of course, on how broke you are...at least you wouldn't have to worry about the whole sweatshop thing.
 
 
Lurid Archive
16:51 / 20.12.04
I think I've taught him useful stuff..the importance of...venturing out of black and into colour

Poor, poor, Xoc.
 
 
Ganesh
02:16 / 21.12.04
Tt. Goths.
 
 
modern maenad
11:12 / 21.12.04
You could go to thrift shops, depending, of course, on how broke you are...at least you wouldn't have to worry about the whole sweatshop thing.

Woodtiger - This would be fantastic, if only we could pursuade men to be as recklessly disposable in their pursuit of fashion as women - my local charity shops are stuffed to the rafters (flourescent strip lights) with fabulous, never-worn women's clothes, but the men's section is usually a pathetic (impressive) array of faded, stretched jumpers and anoracs. What to do???
 
 
ONLY NICE THINGS
10:35 / 22.12.04
Cross-dress?
 
 
modern maenad
12:34 / 22.12.04
OK, so now you're taking this to whole new and very exciting level.....
 
 
Smoothly
13:12 / 22.12.04
I think I'm pretty easily influenced by others in what clothes I wear. I dress pretty conservatively and pursue longevity more than style, and I don't see my clothing as being a particularly personal expression so don't feel defensive about criticism.
My girlfriend is best placed to influence me, and I kinda wish she'd try a bit harder. She'll sometimes expressive a preference along the lines of 'Green suits you more than you think it does' or 'You should wear those shoes more' or 'For god's sake cover yourself up', but she's never told me that she doesn't like something I own. I suspect for reasons of misplaced diplomacy. Thing is, she just knows a lot more about clothes than I do, so I always respect her opinion and kinda wish she'd advise me more.
I particularly like it when she buys clothes for me. She gave me a pair of jeans for Christmas - of a make I'd never heard of - and they're the best jeans ever. I often feel that I've settled on particular brands or styles for particular garments, but she inspires me to look a little deeper.
I'm confident that if we went out and dressed one another, I'd look a whole lot cooler, and she'd be top-to-toe Top Shop.
 
 
Tom Coates
07:39 / 23.12.04
I have just won an award at work for "Worst dressed" member of a team of 25 people. Which I've found rather upsetting to be honest.
 
 
lekvar
22:57 / 23.12.04
My girlfriend and I have somewhat similar tastes in clothes, so there's little criticism. The only real dischord that arises is in our preferences in materials. She is deeply addicted to synthetics and tells me that I should dress in tight-fitting shiny ployester tops. I hate polyester with a passion. I'm all about the natural fabrics. Swath my body in dead plants and animals!
 
  
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