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I Think I Might Have Fallen In Love By Accident

 
  

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VonKobra,Scuttling&Slithering
10:20 / 16.04.04
Should I kill her?
 
 
Alex's Grandma
10:26 / 16.04.04
It depends how long she's going away for, VK. But if it's more than a month, I think so, yeah.
 
 
Jub
10:27 / 16.04.04
You'll be okay. Let her go off, pine for a bit, then you'll meet someone and go off with her and that'll be that. When matey girl comes back you'll know you've donw the right thing.

...whatever happens, don't kill her. bit harsh.
 
 
Baz Auckland
11:04 / 16.04.04
und wenn she's das Land bereits verließ, scheint es eine Spitze, die, sie, Nr. zu töten strittig ist? Sie wird gegangen! Warten Sie bis sie zurückkommt und sich dann um es... sorgen Sie

(...and if she's left the country already, it seems a bit moot to kill her, no? She's gone!

Wait until she comes back and then worry about it...)
 
 
VonKobra,Scuttling&Slithering
11:06 / 16.04.04
If I kill her I can keep her in the Freezer and talk to her though.

And I have this new Drill.
 
 
The Puck
11:09 / 16.04.04
Kill her but dont wear her clothes.

that would be *weird*
 
 
Jack Vincennes
11:12 / 16.04.04
If I kill her I can keep her in the Freezer and talk to her though.

Aber Sie können nicht Gespräch zu zerfleischten Mädchen...

(That may be grammatically mangled. My apologies to everyone with anything other than sub-GCSE German)
 
 
VonKobra,Scuttling&Slithering
11:28 / 16.04.04
Ach

It's just dumb...

I'm not talking about lust or infatuation here.

We're scarily similar. And we've been through a lot of weird shit together in the last year or so.

I'll be thinking about her for the rest of my life is all.

I'm leaving this country soon, and it's a coin-toss as to whether we'll ever see each other again.

Life...people coming and going.

This Trainstation is just getting me down a little.

But I suppose life is a bittersweet thing isn't it.
 
 
Grey Area
12:12 / 16.04.04
Das Leben ist in der Tat ein sauerer Apfel...und man hat keine Wahl ob man reinbeissen will oder nicht. Aber fuer jeden sauren Apfel kriegt man meistens einen oder zwei suesse Aepfel, vielleicht auch eine Ananas oder eine Passionsfrucht. Also, sauren Apfel nehmen wie er kommt, die Erfahrung desselben verdauen, und mit Geduld und erweiterte Weltanschauung auf die Passionsfrucht warten.

Und nicht vergessen: Nichts verdirbt eine gute Freundschaft wie mit dem Freund/der Freundin Beischlaf zu begehen. Tun Sie es nicht, denn Sie werden sich danach schlechter fuehlen, als Sie sich jetzt, in der Erwartung der Abreise, schon fuehlen.
 
 
Jester
12:20 / 16.04.04
Arr.. VK...

*HUGS*

I would bet on you seeing each other again though. I mean, who would have thought we would meet, other side of the world and all. And that worked out, right?
 
 
Ganesh
12:55 / 16.04.04
Are you sure you're not falling for her at this point precisely because she's buggering off to another country?
 
 
Jack Vincennes
13:01 / 16.04.04
(Grey Area - you are Thomas Mann and I claim my £5!)
 
 
Grey Area
13:27 / 16.04.04
Vin: Sorry mate, I'm not Thomas Mann...I get mistaken for him a lot, but I'm not him.

Ganesh has a point, VK. Maybe the fact that this person's leaving has led you to think about your friendship with her a lot...combined with the gloom of imminent departure, you could just be pining prematurely, a feeling that's quite like love in some ways. I've been there, and it's a toughie.
 
 
Tryphena Absent
13:32 / 16.04.04
Hahahahaha. I'm pointing at you and laughing.

I'm sorry but I reckon the crueller we are to you now the less likely you are to continue to be hopelessly in love with someone you have no chance of getting. Plus, she's your best friend for pity's sake, you know far too much about her to fall in love with her, are you insane?
 
 
Ganesh
13:35 / 16.04.04
I was thinking more along the lines that suddenly 'discovering' one is in love with someone who will imminently be beyond one's reach (geographically, matrimonially, blah blah) allows one to luxuriate in the whole swoonsome unrequited thing, without a) having to commit to it, or b) risking rejection, disappointment or the erosive effect of day-to-day Real Life.

Of course, killing her would achieve the same effect, even more dramatically.
 
 
Char Aina
13:39 / 16.04.04
dude, there are some people we are just meant to see again.
and it strikes me as an exciting adventure to meet familiar faces in foreign lands.

and!
if she's really the one,
there'll be an omen, a portentous sign;
fire in the sky, plagues of locusts, frogs,
and your freezer spontaneously defrosting.

...and a bass solo to rattle the blackened Notebook of Tears from valhalla.


seriously,
thats how you know.
 
 
Char Aina
13:44 / 16.04.04
I'll be thinking about her for the rest of my life is all.

baby, if'n you get to glass-go, unka toksik gonna make you forget aaaaaaaaaaawwuhlll about this lady. she aint no lady like mistah T a lady, baby...
 
 
Goodness Gracious Meme
13:50 / 16.04.04
gotta love the barbe-varied approach response/counsel/harm reduction

Me, I'd have an inclination to wonder, like 'nesh, if the imminent departure is part of the allure.
 
 
STOATIE LIEKS CHOCOLATE MILK
13:51 / 16.04.04
Listen to Ganesh, for he is wise.

Although killing her does have the advantage you can keep her under your floorboards. (I share a birthday with Dennis Nilsen, factfans.)
 
 
STOATIE LIEKS CHOCOLATE MILK
13:56 / 16.04.04
Oh, and re your topic heading... did anyone here ever fall in love on purpose?

Sorry to take the piss, VK... I'm sure it hurts bad. But it won't forever.
 
 
Grey Area
13:56 / 16.04.04
Wasn't he the one who went after young men though?
 
 
STOATIE LIEKS CHOCOLATE MILK
13:57 / 16.04.04
GA- yes, he was. But apparently he loved his dog. (Seeing pictures of Nilsen's dog Bleep always upset me... such a sweet little dog... never had to be associated with all that murdering malarkey.)
 
 
Pan Paniscus
14:06 / 16.04.04
Bollocks - dogs are evil. Probably told him to do it and everything.
 
 
STOATIE LIEKS CHOCOLATE MILK
14:08 / 16.04.04
Nah, you're thinking of Son of Sam. And that was next door's dog, anyway.
 
 
Goodness Gracious Meme
14:11 / 16.04.04
dogs aren't evil. they're not bright enough.
 
 
ONLY NICE THINGS
14:15 / 16.04.04
Don't take this the wrong way, but I always felt Denis Nilsen was the serial killer you could probably have quite a nice chat with. You know - civil servant, degree, likes a nice cup of milky tea. The killing young men bit seems more like an unfortunate and uncharacteristic lapse than it does with your Dahmers or Wests...

Oh dear. That came out all wrong. Head Shop thread on why being a serial killer is worse if you're working clas, anyone?

VK - it has to be said, if she is your best friend, her going away and you going away and so on and so forth is likely to be stirring up all sorts of odd feelings. Since she's leaving anyway, you might want to give it a month or so and see if you are still feeling this way... hedgehugs in the meantime.
 
 
STOATIE LIEKS CHOCOLATE MILK
14:17 / 16.04.04
Listen.

Anyone wants to diss dogs, I'll fight 'em. (And BiP, how could you? You've met Biscuits the Wonder Dog... she's looking all hurt now.)

Seriously, Kobra, on a purely pragmatic level, if she's your best friend, you're still gonna be in touch. If this turns out not just to be separation anxiety or some such Psychology 101 term I don't understand, then your chance is still there.

Always remember, though- the friendship is the important part. You can forego squelchy fun in favour of friendship... but you should never do it the other way around.
 
 
Goodness Gracious Meme
14:29 / 16.04.04
listen to the stoats for he speaks wisdom.

(and ok, by my standards of dog disdain, biscuits is pretty rock. and don't do that 'hurt eyes' thing. arghhhgh. or i may have to Hurt your Eyes)
 
 
Not Here Still
18:38 / 16.04.04
Tann my boy, Orwell beat us to it, years ago:

With all this in mind one can construct what would be, from a NEWS OF THE WORLD reader's point of view, the "perfect" murder. The murderer should be a little man of the professional class--a dentist or a solicitor, say - living an intensely respectable life somewhere in the suburbs, and preferably in a semi-detached house, which will allow the neighbours to hear suspicious sounds through the wall. He should be either chairman of the local Conservative Party branch, or a leading Nonconformist and strong Temperance advocate.
 
 
Eloi Tsabaoth
18:46 / 16.04.04
The perfect murder would be accidentally killing Elvis in the Antarctic with a baguette.
An accident: No motive.
Everyone thinks he's already dead: No investigation.
Wilderness: No witnesses.
Eat the baguette: No murder weapon.
Just consider yourselves lucky I'm on the side of the angels.
 
 
Grey Area
18:56 / 16.04.04
While everything you say is correct, in the case of Elvis surely the best murder weapon would be a frozen leg of ham? Then you could feed it to the police officers who come to start the dead-ended investigation, a la Roald Dahl.
 
 
Jester
19:07 / 16.04.04
Grey Area: I love that Roald Dahl story so much Roald Dahl was just something really special, really, huh?
 
 
Haus of Mystery
19:07 / 16.04.04
Why are you talking about girls and love Von Kobra? Do you have a brain-eating bug virus loose below decks?
 
 
STOATIE LIEKS CHOCOLATE MILK
19:12 / 16.04.04
Das Butt.
 
 
VonKobra,Scuttling&Slithering
08:18 / 17.04.04
I know, I know... my Denim is all dishevelled and everything. Maybe I just need to sit in tonight and watch Querelle again. I mean, this shouldn't be happening. My Unterseeboot lists dangerously to one side...

...but thank you, all of you.

On another note, I think it's wonderful that a topic on such "heartfelt" dramatics should end up involving serial killers and baguettes.

I really like Barbelith.
 
  

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