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Help My Parents Not Lose Their House

 
 
FinderWolf
14:59 / 20.01.04
I usually confine my requests to the Gek threads, but I just wanted to throw out a request for aid. My father has been out of work for most of the past 3 or 4 years, and my parents are in a serious financial crisis at this point. If my father doesn't find a steady job or my family doesn't come into some money in the next few months, they're going to have to sell their house, my childhood home. (My mother works a part-time job and has done so for a long time - it's a good job and it's great that she got it given her almost non-existent work experience.) They have some retirement money saved away but my impression is that it's almost nothing. My father has sold whatever small stocks he has and they're stretching every penny. It scares me that right now I make more money than my parents (and likely have for the past several years). I keep giving my parents sizable chunks of money from my checking account to try to help them. My dad is a salesman/marketing consultant who went into business for himself as a consultant about 9 years ago. He did ok until the past 4 years, what with the economy and all that.

Now, I realize that it may be that they're meant to sell their house and move to Florida or something. I can accept that. And I realize I can't solve all their problems and they'll manage somehow. It's not like they'd go to the poorhouse; their house will fetch a pretty penny as it's in a high-priced real estate area. With the money from the sale of their house, they could move somewhere much cheaper than Long Island, New York, and they have often talked about wanting to move to warmer climate now that they're in their early 60s. But, something about this doesn't feel right at all, it doesn't feel like their destiny to me to be near-impoverished in their 60s. And even if they sell the house and move to Florida, they won't really have enough to live off that money for a long time, I fear.

So I am humbly requesting whatever prayers, good vibes and help you can muster. I've done a few sigils and other magickal workings over the past year or so to help with this as well, and I asked Gek in Ze's thread.

Thanks very much!
 
 
LVX23
19:35 / 20.01.04
The same thing happened to my family back in '89. It wasn't fun but they managed to reinvent themselves and bounce back. My step-father lost his job in the commercial real estate industry. They lost their house, their car (and I mean Lost - the bank took them), and had to declare bankruptcy. After a year or so of little opportunity they moved out of Cali up to Washington, borrowed a heap of money to buy a storage faacility and now own and operate it near capacity while living on oceanfront on an island in the Sound - much more relaxing than LA. And they were in their late 40's when all of this happened.

First, don't feel victimized (you or your family). Change will always happen and, more often than not, it's for the good. But it takes a strong will to make the most of any upheaval. As you note, this is ultimately their responsibility. If your father has really been mostly out of work for nearly 4 years now, then it's probably time he either a) lower his standards and accept less money, or b) reinvent himself entirely and try something different. He may have to humble himself enough to ask for a family/friendly loan (that's what my family had to do). Also, personal bankruptcy is an option. They won't have any credit for several years, but credit is ultimately a bad thing to have when you're out of money. And let go of the family house (although I never lived in a single home for more than 3 or 4 years so this may be easier for me to say).

My ill-informed prescription: Sell the house. Declare bankruptcy. Move somewhere warm with a lower cost of living and take a new job and a new outlook on life. Embrace the situation as an opportunity for change and growth.
 
 
FinderWolf
19:01 / 23.01.04
Thanks LVX!
 
 
Spyder Todd 2008
14:42 / 26.01.04
I'll see if I can't look into possible solutions for this. I'll let you know when I find something.
 
 
FinderWolf
14:08 / 27.01.04
Thanks, Spyder.
 
  
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