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Cremation or burial?

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11:29 / 15.10.03

I find the problem is always the difference between what the deceased would have liked and what those left behind would like.

We had huge rows at my Nan's funeral because her new husband felt our choice of music (her favourite) was disrespectful. he had very particular ideas of what was and what wasn't appropriate at a funeral.

I also had a row with my Mother-in-law recently along the same lines. She was saying that her sister's daughters wanted to scatter her ashes on her favourite beach but the rest of the family had forced them to have a gravestone. I was saying how I thought the beach idea was lovely and she was saying "...but people like somewhere to go and pay respects". I personally don't know why people would need somewhere specific to pay respects but also I couldn't understand why you can't pay respects on a beach? Her reasoning was that it was too far for people to travel! Maybe it's a generational thing?

Personally I would like a double-plot for hubby and I, somewhere where we'll eventually become part of trees and flowers. Oh, and I'd like to be buried in one of these...

11:47 / 15.10.03

Bill, I know you're not meant to bury people in the back garden (I think it's not even allowed to bury pets of any size there, is that correct?). But you could still have the headstone there, though it wouldn't be heading anything... and it would confuse any passing resurrection men, to boot.

11:51 / 15.10.03

Ahh, sorry Kitten, I hadn't got what you wuz getting at.

(I think it's not even allowed to bury pets of any size there, is that correct?)

Cripes, I hope not.

* shuffles guiltily *

11:56 / 15.10.03

Oh dear. We had a veritable pet cemetery in our garden.

And um, I'm not sure I'm entirely happy about the appropriation/hijack of the world Dolomite...

12:14 / 15.10.03

Yeah, Bill, though, having actually been *at* NASA (in Houston) when Challenger happened, I gotta say that's the first original Shuttle joke I've heard. (^_^)

Raid the corpse for useable bits, bury the rest where it will do some good. Alternatively, send me into space to be taken up by the Phoenix Asteroids (schedule permitting) or strapped to a surfboard for re-entry. DON'T bury me at Morningside Funeral Home, owned by the really tall funeral director (I found it on tape for a buck).

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