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What should I do? Where should I go?

 
 
rizla mission
09:51 / 06.05.03
It has come to my attension that I have absolutely no idea what to do with myself, or where to go, after June 31st.

The world is my oyster, yet oddly, it simultaneously isn't.
(what a stupid sentence)

So, I'm open to suggestions..
 
 
Our Lady of The Two Towers
11:33 / 06.05.03
Do you have any desires or skills at all? I mean, I'm not going to suggest you go work with some aid agency for a year if you have the heart and soul of someone who wants to go to Goa, get stoned and fail to get off with any of the hundreds of loose women that are just begging for it out there...
 
 
Our Lady of The Two Towers
11:35 / 06.05.03
On the other hand, if you're truly open to any suggestions, can I be the first to put in a vote for 'Chopping your bollocks off and starting a short-lived death cult based around the Harry Potter books'?

Or FUCKing SHIT UP!
 
 
Saveloy
12:24 / 06.05.03
Whatever you do, don't get a boring office / computery job "just to keep you ticking over". I did that, and I've been here 11 years now. D'oh!
 
 
Jub
12:40 / 06.05.03
Rizla - after 31st June?! I'm already impressed. Most of us only have to deal with 30th days in June.

Facetiousness aside though: don't be in too much of a rush to do anything. See what comes along. Go with the flow baby.
 
 
Baz Auckland
12:44 / 06.05.03
TRAVEL!!! Walk to China! Or Turkey! Travel the Sahara by camel!
 
 
that
13:34 / 06.05.03
Well, what do you want to do? Make a list. It's a bit tricky to give you ideas without any guidance as to the nature of the thing - like job, or holiday, or 'travel'? or as to funding. After my degree, I just went on holiday to Greece on my own for a bit. It was nice. But I knew I'd be going to school when I came back (didn't work out that way, but anyway). I have the next five years roughly planned out, which is easy because I plan to be in school all that time... how far into the future are you looking, here?
 
 
Sax
13:47 / 06.05.03
Go straight down to the JobCentre, get yourself some gainful employment, and stop leeching off my fucking taxes, you long-haired layabout. What do you think this is, a fucking hotel?

On the other hand, write a big fuck-off Cthulhu Mythos novel on the terrace of a villa in Greece.

And have sex. Lots of sex.

What are your realistic options then, Riz?
 
 
No star here laces
14:59 / 06.05.03
My advice is that your CV is like a story. University and school are like the introduction and possibly the preface. The first chapter needs to be a good'n to get your readers hooked. So do something mental. Don't just travel, don't get a dull job - take an interesting and badly paid job, or go work elsewhere on something interesting. If it's the kind of thing that people are going to say "wow! what was that like?" when you tell them about it then it'll stand you in good stead whatever you choose to do afterward...
 
 
Olulabelle
15:06 / 06.05.03
That's really good advice from Bleulaces. The first thing on my CV after my education is a freelance job for a short film. It says I costumed a cast of 40 on a budget of £50 by negotiating hire contracts with charity shops. You'd be suprised at how many times it's the first thing I've been asked about in interviews.
 
 
grant
16:13 / 06.05.03
Go back to school and get a hard science degree.

But go to Africa first.
 
 
Tryphena Absent
22:41 / 06.05.03
Fancy a trip to Eastern Europe?
 
 
Scrambled Password Bogus Email
22:49 / 06.05.03
Methinks This Thread is an important missed line of investigation, no??
 
 
Red Cross Iodized Salt
04:43 / 07.05.03
Didn't you just do your A levels, like, last year? I seem to remember a thread where you were trying to decide where to go to university and it doesn't seem like it could have been that long ago...

As for what to do? Depends on whether you want life advice or career advice...if you want career advice then trying to figure out what job won't eventually drive you to insanity or depression is going to be the most difficult part. Additional book learning generally doesn't hurt for career type stuff, but you could easily get away with taking a year to make up your mind.

Pick somewhere you've always wanted to see and go take a look...or pick somewhere you've always thought it would be cool to live and go try it out for a while. Indulge in the fact that you can - for a while - get away with having a poorly paid job that allows you to enjoy your day-to-day existance (eventually parental and peer pressure will make you feel like you're fucking up if you don't join in the stupid grind).

Stuff people I know did that didn't "ruin their lives" despite what their parents' warnings:

- Taught suba diving in Australia
- Worked in bars and restaurants in New York / Brussels / Amsterdam while having a lot of fun (three of them ended up opening their own bar together)
- Started a language school in Mexico (still going strong...two of the guys friends eventually moved to work there as well)
- Went to clown school (I'm not sure what this person is doing now...I know that he's not working as a clown though)
 
 
rizla mission
16:02 / 07.05.03
oh so many scary choices!

Thanks for advice everyone.

CV as a book - that's an interesting concept. At the moment it's a pretty zen book. I would of course be in favour of doing something absolutely mental (well, possibly, depends what it was), but I'm thinking oppurtunities to get paid for doing such things are few and far between.. maybe I could look into doing volunteer type work for some crazy arts organisation.. that's something to think about..

Travelling would be good, but the only place I really want to go is America. And I have a nagging, paranoid feeling that that might be unwise just at the moment. By which I mean, it could be amazing - most of my favourite things come from there, but it could be an absolute journey-into-the-belly-of-the-beast thing - most of my least favourite things do too. I've also canvassed just about everyone I know and none of them want to go with me, which doesn't help..

I'm sure sooner or later somebody's going to suggest I go and do charity work, and that's another thing I'm in two minds about.. on the one hand, I've been known to declare a pompous belief from time to time that it's something everyone should do, but then I know that I'd be *really, really* bad at it, as I'm massively impractical and lazy bad at dealing with problems and almost permanently confused etc., and it would be sure to really depress me too.
 
 
Salamander
16:39 / 07.05.03
Why the hell do you want to come here to america? Unless your coming for the peyote, then I would say COME ON DOWN! America isn't very fun right now, you might wnat to reconsider, but if you do come be carful. Maybe you should get a soft-science degree, nothing like being paid for thinking.
 
 
grant
17:26 / 07.05.03
Ever considered crewing on a cargo boat? I did. Consider it, that is. Never did it. Ah, sweet regret.

Perhaps you could move into the carport at my new home and become the Balfour Houseboy. No pay to speak of, but the location's nice.

If it's the cultural produce of America that interests you, you're probably more into staying in New York or LA, then. The megalopoli. Which is just urban, maaan. You could become a roadie for a touring band. That'd be a good goal. You'd need to know how to coil cables, and weird jargon for bits of gear. And you'd need to know a band, too, I suppose.

By the way, do you have a driver's license?

Unrelated: Ever thought of becoming an air courier? You can do it freelance as a way to get dirt cheap flights ($400 from LA to Bangkok?!), but there are also folks who do it for a living, I think.

My sister got out of college and flew to Taiwan to teach English. If you want to get around the world a little, this is a great way to go.

She found a job after she got there, by the way. Not before. I'd do some looking around for that sort of thing -- the only qualification is that you speak English. Which you do.

One of my sister's English-teaching gigs was, essentially, singing and speaking for a few hours a day to three-year-olds. They were at that age when the brain starts grabbing words, and the Taiwanese wanted the kids exposed to English words to grab onto. I still do an impression of her impression of a very proper Australian teacher at the same school singing "Laugh, Kookaburra, laugh!" with perfect diction and a ramrod-straight back, as if reciting Tennyson.

Don't rely on friends to go with you. Rely on making friends once you land. You've got friends all over, anyway, from here.
 
 
Baz Auckland
18:04 / 07.05.03
I was about to say... there must be enough Barbeloids spread around North America to give you (at least) a couch in every city. Mi sofá es su sofá...
 
 
Jack Fear
18:15 / 07.05.03
The house I'm living in right now will be vacant as of 1st July, if you want to soak up the authentic small-town American vibe...
 
 
sleazenation
18:34 / 07.05.03
I'd say go do the scarey thing - go to the states - go touring see if you can get a work visa or something from an organization like Bunac (although they tend not to arange open work visas for the states, only for canada)
 
 
Tryphena Absent
21:10 / 07.05.03
Where in the States are you thinking about going?
 
 
Salamander
21:15 / 07.05.03
You should come to Texas, we've climbed up to 91 today and the humidities reached damp and rank level 9. Just make sure your paperworks in order...
 
 
Kit-Cat Club
21:15 / 07.05.03
My suggestion was going to be to do nothing, stay in, watch the rain trickle down the windows and write a really fucked off, dystopian, punk rock anti-establishment THING that rattles the windows and doors off the Houses of Parliament UNTIL THEY FALL OFF but I think this may be because I am in nihilistic mode and have had that Manics line running through my head all day - 'there's nothing I wanna see; there's nowhere I wanna go' and it seems really romantic to me right now... YMMV...
 
 
Red Cross Iodized Salt
00:20 / 08.05.03
The most troublesome thing about coming to the US - if that is what you decide to do - from Europe is sorting out a visa. You might want to look into the J1 program, as that would allow you to live and work here for up to a year (unless its changed recently). Coming over on a tourist visa makes finding non under-the-counter jobs difficult. One of the best ways to ensure that a J1 application goes through is to indicate that you have a job or college course to return to. There are a bunch of other requirements though, such as being able to prove that you have enough money to get home if you need to (and of course the process itself costs money), but it works out pretty well for a lot of people.
 
 
rizla mission
10:26 / 09.05.03
Where in the States are you thinking about going?

New England, New York, North Dekota, Washington state, San Francisco, Death Valley. In that order. Possibly with other places.

I'm actually a bit short of time to reply to all the thoughtful suggestions at the moment, but in brief:

Grant: As much as a life on the waves appeals, I spent 24 hours on a boat once and suffered from both sea sickness and cabin fever. Houseboy sounds like a nice position though.
I'll add 'roadie' to the list of jobs I'd be comically bad at ("why don't we plug this thingy into that other big box for a change? I'm sure it would sound good..").


Jack: tempting..

Kit-Cat: but that's what I do anyway. With varying degrees of success.

Sleaze and Barry: yes, good idea in short.

Basic: that indeed sounds problematic.
 
  
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