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The "it's not you, it's me" thing is just annoying because in a way it's actually true, and another way it actually isn't. You can't help who you're attracted to or who you wanna be with, and that's the "it's not you" part. but the truth is, you're just not doing it for possible paramour, and that's the "it is, actually, YOU, sort of" part.
And yeah that hurts a bit, but different strokes for different folks, you know? I personally would rather be rejected by someone who didn't really want to be with me than spend my time with them.
Dating is kind of like sales. You knock on a lot of doors, some people are going to turn you down, but the more doors you knock on, the easier it gets to handle the turn-downs. And someone ALWAYS says "yes" (eventually!).
This guy just had a boyfriend. Probably you just had your hopes up high and were planning pinnacles of amour and all that and it was all ruined when you found out about the boyfriend. I'd be upset, too. (and seeing as I'm a romantic who likes my men idealized and more on the fantasy side than reality, have been there!) But I promise you you'll feel better, and when you do, ask someone else out and I bet they'll say yes.
If you need to talk, feel free to call on Auntie Cherry... 
[ 13-03-2002: Message edited by: Cherry Bomb ] |
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rugs, including SSRIs, don't affect every single person in exactly the same way. You certainly know exactly what the consequences of coming off them were for you, but you don't neccessarily know how it's going to affect somebody else.