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Roomates

Elijah, Freelance Rabbi

00:47 / 11.04.03

well, i am in a situation where i am still living with the young woman i thought i would spend the rest of my life with. Recently we have decided that we are splitting up, however we are still living together until may/june.
I was going to live by myself, but money wise i dont see that working. Today someone i work with said she was getting a 2 bedroom place in mid may and was looking for a roomate.

Now, i barely know this person, she has been seeing a friend of mine for like 2 weeks. She seems cool enough, and i really am in a tight spot.

So, oh wise a learned lithers, seeing as how the only person i ever lived with was familly or my soon to be ex, should i go solo and be a poor student, or get a roomy and have money?

the Fool

01:38 / 11.04.03

Go for the roomy. Being alone in a house ain't all that fun. New roomy means meeting new people, could be a good thing...

Jub

07:47 / 11.04.03

Yeah - but she might be a psycho hose beast. They aren't the only two options Elijah. Can you look at other places? And living with people you work with is not great in my experience.

Cherry Bomb

07:54 / 11.04.03

Go with your gut. If your gut feeling says this other roomy would be fine, live with her. Even if you have roomate trouble you can always move out and sublet the place.

Quantum

10:44 / 11.04.03

G'wan, move in. If she seems cool she probably is, even if she is a psycho hose beast. And you can always move out.
I say this because living alone after a breakup is a pain in the arse, definitely have a roomy. Good way to make new friends too.

Elijah, Freelance Rabbi

23:50 / 11.04.03

so, i have 2 real life friends who are telling me not to, however i respect the opinion of barbelith more than that...whats that about?

still not sure what to do, need to decide by tuesday, so i have the weekend to mull it over

Elijah, Freelance Rabbi

02:18 / 12.04.03

grr well, my friend who is kind of dating the potential roomate got all strange when the topic came up, so i dont think it is happening.
thanks for the advice all

Brigade du jour

20:35 / 12.04.03

Dunno bout roommates, but flatmates definitely a good idea. I lived on my own after my then-fiancee moved out in a comfortably sized flat.

It was cool for a while, not having to share anything, keeping the place as spick and span as my compulsive tidiness dictates and everything, but soon enough I found I wasn't going out so much, was not bothering to get dressed if I didn't have to go out, basically turning into a bit of a hermit, so I thought "hello, I'd better move into a new flat with some other people". Plsu I was totally fucked for money because I couldn't afford £500 a month rent.

Now I live in a massive flat with two other guys, but there's plenty of space so irritating compromises and arguments over bullshit are kept to a happy minimum. Guess I got lucky. Still though, it depends on your personality really.

That ... wasn't very helpful was it?

Elijah, Freelance Rabbi

02:50 / 13.04.03

pah, you brits and your sensible terminology
yes, flatmates is a more appropriate term, ans i would not be sharing a bedroom with anyone.

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