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Ummm... I may have had a great evening. I'm not sure yet.

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STOATIE LIEKS CHOCOLATE MILK

19:59 / 21.02.03

WHOAH! That was strange.

Hokay. I was sat here, pissed, checking out Barbelith, playing the Sims, all the usual shit you do on a Friday afternoon when you're not working.

Then I get a phone call from my flatmate (who I've already arranged to go to the pub with at 9-ish) from the pub, saying "I'm at the pub now, come on down". Purely by coincidence, the barmaid from another pub who I've had a crush on for ages is there. We get talking, I end up at her house. Being my nervous self, I'm starting to wonder if things are getting out of hand, once it gets to the "clothing removal" stage. At which point her flatmate calls her out of the room, she comes back in and says "this is probably not such a good idea right now..." Being a nervous kind of guy, I was somewhat relieved and said "Okay." So... things were cooled. I came home.

Question being- she gave me her number. We were both very pissed. We agreed to go out on the piss tomorrow night.

Do I call? Bear in mind, if I don't, then I can never go in my favourite pub ever again. But if it turns out she was just pissed, then that's worse. AND I can never go in that pub again.

Oh, and did I mention, I've fancied her for ages?

Fuck it. I know I'm gonna call. If it all goes horribly wrong then I'd like someone to have given me some advance warning. Even if I did ignore it.

Christ. I'm gonna become a monk.

20:09 / 21.02.03

Call 'er like the badger you are. Since whatever happenes, you can't go in your favoite pub ever again, you've got nothing to lose.

STOATIE LIEKS CHOCOLATE MILK

20:26 / 21.02.03

That was my reasoning. I just wanted it confirmed.

Now all I have to do is not bottle it tomorrow.

Matthew Fluxington

20:31 / 21.02.03

Yeah, definitely call her.

You have a lot more to gain than you have to lose.

Matthew Fluxington

20:32 / 21.02.03

Also, you may want to think about the possibility that you have a strong shot of getting the girl you've fancied AND getting to go to your favorite pub. And maybe getting a discount sometimes too.

20:33 / 21.02.03

Wow, this is just like some kind of freaky twisted parody of a Richard Curtis romantic comedy, with Barbelith as the wacky yet wise mates to Moominstoat's Hugh Grant.

20:49 / 21.02.03

No way man, don't fucking do it!

(This way, if it goes a-OK, I have lost nothing, but if it goes balls-up, I have got a reputation of being right)

22:59 / 21.02.03

Oh my god. Stoat - don't be a twat. Call her. Wait till you're sober before you do anything though. And remember - it is better to regret something you have done than somthing you haven't done.
If she gave you her number it was for a reason. If she was too pissed and you're paranoid about that, then that's something you've got to get over. If she's taking the piss, then it's her loss in the long run - not yours.

23:18 / 21.02.03

You will fix it! You will mend it!

Her name's not Emily, is it?

23:32 / 21.02.03

You've been struck by twitterpainted season! (from Bambi)

Best of luck and all that. She might be as nervous as you and want reassuring so do call her. Even if it doesn't go exactly to plan you'll get points for effort, and that may help in the long run.

Strange Machine Vs The Virus with Shoes

02:16 / 22.02.03

You’re not a character in a 20/30’s age group sit-com are you? Does this shit actually happen in North London??

STOATIE LIEKS CHOCOLATE MILK

06:29 / 22.02.03

Yeah, fuck it. I'll call her. Nothing ventured, eh?

xxxxxxxxxx- I'm actually a character in a 70s children's TV show.

pointless and uncalled for

09:45 / 22.02.03

Gotta do it, if not for you then for all of us hapless men incapable of reading the signs and opening our mouths for anything other than a date destroying babble.

Just try to drink less and be prepared to blag your way out of a spot if you do indeed have the wrong impression.

09:59 / 22.02.03

Good luck, Stoatie.

Regrettable Juvenilia

12:22 / 22.02.03

In the film The Shootist, John Wayne's aging gunslinger offers the following sage advice to Lauren Bacall, who is worried about the recent rambunctiousness of her son, Richie Cunningham:

"Every young man needs to let the badger loose, once in a while."

Unleash the badger!

14:13 / 22.02.03

am I the only one left wondering why did her roommate call her out of the room at that point, what she said, and why she bothered to listen to a pervert roommate that was listening in well enough to know what was going on?

14:19 / 22.02.03

Well, we don't necessarily know the roommate was listening, or even that the reason for it not being a 'good idea' was related to Stoatie. The female in question (and I think of her as Emily now) might have had to go and do something unrelated: take a phonecall, or deliver a baby. Or something.

Tryphena Absent

14:19 / 22.02.03

Who needs a soap opera when you've got barbelith!?

Good luck!

14:50 / 22.02.03

Just try to drink less

Drink....less?

I don't think that particular construction is in Stoatie's grammatical handbook. Nice try, tho'.

15:34 / 22.02.03

Oh, jhell. Call her up, and if it sounds like she's not too keen on the idea, you can ask if she's nervous - explain that you're nervous as well... Maybe even apologize just in case you did anything offensive while horribly unsober, etc.

Basically, you're a nice guy who was drunk but not trying to take advantage of the fact that she wasn't sober either, right??

Never having met you, obviously I'm making this all up as I go along, but it mihgt work anyway...

15:36 / 22.02.03

...shit... I think I have the Widow's Granton-sized hangover this morning. I feel fine, but can't type at all - please ignore all my typo errors.

(kinda like jhell, though!)

STOATIE LIEKS CHOCOLATE MILK

21:07 / 22.02.03

Hmmm.

I called her (that was scary enough) and it turns out she had actually given me the right number! (Which was my first piece of paranoia out of the way.) She even seemed pleased to hear from me! But was horribly hungover (which would make sense) but was up for going out next week!

All of which would have just made me feel sad and pathetic but with my honour redeemed, were it not for the fact that my hairdresser friend (who knew none of this, but who had done this girl's hair yesterday afternoon- hence her ending up in the pub with my flatmate), once I told her who I was worried about, managed to quote her pretty much word for word on her opinion of me. Apparently I'd been "discussed"... not sure exactly how I would be likely to pop up in conversation, but there you go... that afternoon. Prior to the meeting in the pub.

Hey. There y'go. I'm calling her next week (but will probably have seen her before then at the pub- she did say "come in on Sunday"-ie tomorrow- but I'm oh-so-not sure about that. I think a week for me to sort my head out and for her to explore any other available options seems about fair).

Aargh. I'm pissed (again) and probably not making too much sense. I'm still optimistic, but without getting my hopes up (if such a thing is possible). I think I'm actually a really bad Woody Allen movie. And I mean a really bad one.

21:14 / 22.02.03

No way - you're not The Curse of the Jade Scorpion; you're barely even Shadows and Fog. Hell, you've not even achieved (if I may mix metaphors) Trent Reznor yet.

The Return Of Rothkoid

21:20 / 22.02.03

Chairman, you are in no way a Small Time Crook(s), so feel relaxed and confident. Sounds good, y'know.

21:25 / 22.02.03

So are you doing anything better tomorrow? Do you normally go to that pub on a Sunday?? Please don't act out of character or all will be adrift...I can relate to your angst tho', don't don't dont' panic and all will be well. Wish I knew how to do a 'smiley' this lecture calls for one.

22:11 / 22.02.03

Dude:

this is a pretty good outcome. She gave you the right number, she wants to see you again... what's not to like? Sorry, but you've overcome so many hurdles... I really don't think you need to make any more.

Up to you about the next move, but a swift pint or two Sunday probably won't hurt anybody, you know?

Well played.

STOATIE LIEKS CHOCOLATE MILK

09:45 / 23.02.03

Well... I don't think I can actually afford a swift pint today, so that's probably out of the question. (Added to which the fact that I forgot to repeat my a-d's prescription, so I'm shaking like an alcoholic geriatric. With Parkinson's Disease. Not a good look.)

Anyway, I have to spend an unpleasant day in hospital on Wednesday, so I should maybe put the rest of my life on hold until after that. (Except the parts about playing video games, of course. And drinking cheap beer from the off-license).

videodrome- whaddayamean? I love Shadows & Fog!

14:53 / 23.02.03

Maybe it would be a good idea not to play the sympathy vote, but don't make yourself extra miserable by not going to see someone you like.
I've done the waiting for nasty hospital things to happen and the last thing I would recommend is putting enjoying your life on hold, even if you take a step back from planning anything specific.

15:50 / 23.02.03

I can understand the stress, but congrats all the same! You've fancied her for ages, so it's very cool. Good luck!

19:00 / 23.02.03

There's no fibre in beer, you know.

Tryphena Absent

22:24 / 23.02.03

Yay.

STOATIE LIEKS CHOCOLATE MILK

09:41 / 26.02.03

Bah. My flatmate went to a party with her last night- apparently she does kind of regret the whole thing as she's still really fucked-up about her ex. But I guess the fact that she's apparently really worried that I'm not speaking to her means she's being genuine about the wanting to be friends part, which I can live with. (See, she doesn't know that the reason I've not been in the pub all week is because of all my hospital stuff).

Anyway, after getting really upset about it this morning, I went to the hospital and found out I didn't have cancer. Which was nice.

Hmm. I may go and live up a stick for a few years.

09:54 / 26.02.03

Or maybe by popping into the pub and saying hello and being a normal human being will restore her faith in you and even rekindlethe warm feelings she has towards you.

Trust me, you are not the only one who frets and worries about every little detail and flips out when you think you've done the wrong thing and stuffed up what "might have been" a perfectly good friendship.

The thing is that you need to let her know why you've not been around (level of detail here is up to you) and then let it progress naturally from there. Maybe you'll just be friends or maybe you'll be laying the foundations for something more. You'll never know if you don't give it a go.

I know this shit is hard so much love and hugs for you, but I'd also wait until the pethadine wears off, it can really fuck you over!

STOATIE LIEKS CHOCOLATE MILK

10:01 / 26.02.03

Oh, and btw, the whole "her flatmate" thing was to do with it. Fuck it, she was probably doing the right thing for her friend, though. And I probably looked dodgy.

10:22 / 26.02.03

Yeah, but Stoatie we all know the difference between looking dodgey and being dodgey.

And from what I know of you, you are most definately NOT on my dodgey people list!

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