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I really need some sound advice...

  
 
Andrew C*** passing himself of as Haus
21:54 / 18.02.03
Sorry to be a pain.

so...

I was with this girl a few nights ago. To cut a long story short, she had a bit of a horrible night, and I was there to comfort her, and innocent huggles turned into...Well, we ended up getting it on, and almost fucked, but in the end nothing happened. Well nothing cock in ear, anyway...There were NO bad vibes passed between us though. i.e. A good time was had by all. (Both.)

So yesterday night, I'm in the dorm I'm staying in (I'm currently travelling. Where have you been?) and I was chatting with these two Canadian girls who are also staying in the dorm - One of them having walked in on us 'that night' as me and the girl were getting frisky with each other. So I mentioned, innocently, and in passing, that we didn't have sex the previous night, and this Canadian girl said 'that's only because she shot you down.' It was said in a really bitchy way, and, well, it was said to dis me, without a doubt. She didn't have to say a damn thing, even if the girl really DID say that, did she? Well, I was gutted. I asked her later if the girl in question really said that and Canadian girl said yes.

So I was really depressed, most of all because I thought we'd both had a fun time with each other, and it had been just super sexy cool and nice and all that. I went out but it played on my mind all night. In fact it ruined my night. I thought about having a go at the girl I'd been with, for saying that, and went home, and she was sleeping, and I considered my options and decided it wasn't worth waking her up, so I left it until this morning.

Well, this morning I thought about it some and it occurred to me that the Canadian girl was just maybe being a lying spiteful bitch. And she just chose to paint what could well have been a very innocent comment by this girl in a bitchy light, and then lie when I asked her about it later on.

Well, I just spoke to the girl, and I was right, and I'm really glad because my feelings were hurting real bad. The only thing that she said to those Canadian girls was that she was glad one of them walked in because it stopped us from going any further with each other. No mention of 'shooting me down,' in fact no bitchiness whatsoever. As I suspected, because this chick is a real sweetheart.

So, now I'm really angry at the Canuck chick for bringing bitchy vibes into my life and lying about it later on. I'm gonna say something, I just need some advice on what to say.

I'm thinking of telling her I found out the truth and telling her that she's a lying bitch and she can go to hell.

Any advice would be appreciated, especially from Ganesh/Haus, because he's a sensible sort of chap.

And no, I don't think that the chick is lying.
 
 
Ganesh
22:23 / 18.02.03
I don't think you should say anything: shrug, walk away from it and go enjoy some of the highly enviable world-trek-stuff-to-do that doesn't necessarily involve a) constantly seeking sex, b) being disappointed/angry at the failure of sex to materialise, or c) writing screeds about a) and b). The more you (are seen to) obsess over a single throwaway comment - even a unnecessarily bitchy/spiteful comment - the more desperate and hung-up you appear to those around you.

You can't win here. Let it go.
 
 
Andrew C*** passing himself of as Haus
08:14 / 19.02.03
Okay.
 
 
Quantum
09:21 / 19.02.03
The Canuck chick fancies you. Walk away with your head held high.
 
 
Ganesh
09:22 / 19.02.03
Just don't ask her if she fancies you. That would blow your cool.
 
 
Sax
09:36 / 19.02.03
Perhaps when she walked in on you she was looking for, you know, an invitation...
 
 
Whisky Priestess
13:37 / 19.02.03
1) She misinterpreted the nearly-fuckee's comment. Forgive her.
2) She is not getting any and is jealous. Pity her.
3) She hates you. Hate her.

Alternatively, just let it go. Fuming over other people's behaviour usually drains you rather than them.
 
 
Bear
13:45 / 19.02.03
Yeah quit worrying about it. Stop worrying about the getting laid thing too it's really overrated. Get yourself a Gameboy Advanced instead you'll have much more fun.
 
 
Mourne Kransky
15:54 / 19.02.03
No bad thing to know that some comparative strangers are speculating and taking an undue interest in your sexual /romantic life either. Bit strange that it should matter enough to her that this Canadian woman has formed an opinion about it and felt the need to express it to you. I understand that you felt a bit wounded to have been misunderstood but, in a way, it's flattering.
 
 
that
15:55 / 19.02.03
So you got the Gameboy Advance in the end, bear?
 
 
Char Aina
15:57 / 19.02.03
Wipe them out.

All of them.
 
 
Our Lady of The Two Towers
16:25 / 19.02.03
At the risk of being heartless can't you write to Karen Krizanovitch or something?

There's actually something sad about the way that every month Knodge writes about how he has failed to sleep with some girl, asks for opinions, gets variations on the 'stop trying so hard' or 'treat them like real people' themes and then seems to completely ignore this again for the next month.
 
 
Char Aina
16:34 / 19.02.03
i think i agree with that last post.


there is nothing more attractive to women than the right amount of passion.
i dont mean passion for sex, as that is almost always fairly high in men; rather i mean passion for something like music, or a similar outlet.
if you are in hot countries, surfing is good.

the unfortunate thing is, if this is only important to you for the sex, they can tell.

find something to throw yourself into that takes your mind off the hott boys and girls, and eventually they will come to you.
i dont know if you are one of the magickians here, but think about the power of ignoring sigils and the like. if you think about it too much, you are crippling its effectiveness.
try to 'just be'. 'just be' sexy.
 
 
Mourne Kransky
16:53 / 19.02.03
And remember that all the other Barbelites have got it sussed and their personal and sexual lives are one long Almodóvar movie...

I, for one, sprang from the head of Clare Rayner fully formed and garbed in a rubber surf suit, Lovey...
 
 
Char Aina
16:58 / 19.02.03
the trick is to make wanking like an almodovar movie, that way you are always turned on and scared, while feeling distinctly clever.
 
 
Ganesh
16:59 / 19.02.03
There's an image that's not gonna shift for a little while...

(Bleugh. The rubbered-up Clare Rayner, I mean.)
 
 
Char Aina
17:04 / 19.02.03
well, if you were to combibne the two, wanking like almodovar while your lover is borne of the head of ms rayner, it would certainly stain the brain.


if while you bend one into your hand claire speaks to you of lubricants especially.
 
 
Our Lady of The Two Towers
18:38 / 19.02.03
< Chris Morris > And if 10 men attacked you, would you beat them off? < /Chris Morris >
 
 
Andrew C*** passing himself of as Haus
01:30 / 20.02.03
You people rock.
 
 
aus
04:02 / 20.02.03
Do you realize that, on average, people in committed, long-term relationships get more sex than single people? You do? OK. Then you should ask someone to marry you. Maybe the Canadan chick, maybe the girl you were comforting. Heck, ask them both - that way you've got two chances.

And if they both say "yes", lucky you! Two wives!
 
 
Bear
10:36 / 20.02.03
Nah I didn't get a Gameboy Advanced Cholister - maybe I should take some of my own advice
 
  
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